The super mind

Whenever you find yourself starting to miss someone you really loved… But someone who didn’t appreciate you.

Someone who didn’t care about how you felt. Someone who you loved, but someone who just treated you like an option.

Stop just for a brief moment, and remember…

Remember the disrespect.

Remember all the times when your feelings didn’t matter and went invalidated.

Remember how your worth was completely disregarded.

Remember when your boundaries were ignored time and time again.

Remember the things they did to break your trust over and over again.

Remember all the times you asked them to treat you like they loved you, but they still refused.

Remember how it made you feel.

Remember just how much it hurt.

Remember how disappointed you felt.

Remember how betrayed you felt.

Because this was real.

This was someone’s version of love for you.

It’s normal to miss someone that you once loved; but it’s so important to remember all of the reasons why the relationship didn’t work, instead of just remembering the good times and the happy memories.

Respect yourself by remembering how you felt, because in doing so you’re honouring yourself and validating your emotions.

Use these memories to reassess and reaffirm your boundaries, values, and what’s important to you in a relationship.

Remember that you deserve to be treated with respect.

You deserve to be treated with kindness. 

You deserve to be heard with empathy and understanding. 

You deserve to have your feelings and needs cared about.

And you deserve to feel emotionally safe because you trust the person you love to look after your heart and do the right thing by you.

Because when you’re in a relationship, these things are not optional extras.

They are non-negotiable basic foundations.

Don’t allow someone to treat you less than you deserve.

And don’t settle for a love, that’s less than you deserve…