Let go

 STOP WAITING for your man to change — it’s not going to happen.

If he wanted to do better, he would have by now. If he truly respected you, loved you the way he says he does, and valued the relationship, you wouldn’t be having the same conversations, crying over the same problems, or feeling like you're the only one trying. You wouldn’t have to beg for effort, attention, honesty, or basic respect.

The hard truth? A man who sees you hurting and chooses not to change is already telling you everything you need to know. He’s comfortable. He knows you’ll stay. He knows your love will cover for his lack of effort. And as long as you keep waiting, hoping, and holding on, he has no reason to grow — because he’s already getting everything he wants, while you stay stuck hoping for the version of him that only exists in your imagination.

You cannot fix him. You cannot love someone into maturity, into empathy, or into treating you right. That’s a decision he has to make. And if he hasn't made it by now, he's not going to — not for you, not for anyone.

Stop settling for potential. Stop justifying his behavior because of his past, his stress, his childhood, or his “love language.” Actions speak louder than excuses. If you’re constantly feeling drained, disrespected, dismissed, or invisible — that is not love. That is emotional neglect, and it only gets worse over time.

You deserve someone who doesn't have to be told how to treat you. Someone who shows up consistently. Who listens, grows, and wants to make you feel safe. You don’t need to wait for that — you just need to stop wasting time on someone who isn’t capable or willing to be that man.

Let go. He’s not going to change. But you can — by walking away, choosing yourself, and never lowering your standards for someone who refuses to rise to meet them.