It’s not just about finding someone who fits into the life

I wonder how willing we really are to become the right person for the right person. 

We spend so much time measuring others against checklists—career-driven, emotionally mature, financially stable, someone who gets our jokes and texts back on time. And yet, when we find someone who actually checks those boxes, we sometimes freeze. We second-guess. We focus on what’s missing instead of what’s right in front of us. It’s easier to keep wanting than to start choosing, easier to say we’re waiting for “the one” than to admit we’re scared of what it means to truly show up for someone else.

I catch myself doing it too—wanting love that feels effortless but forgetting that effort is part of what makes it real. It’s not just about finding someone who fits into the life I’ve built; it’s also about being willing to adjust, to grow, to meet someone halfway without losing myself. Maybe the question isn’t whether someone is right for me, but whether I’m ready to be right for them too. 

Because love doesn’t just arrive—it asks for presence, and showing up isn’t always easy, even when the person is everything you thought you wanted.