one thing i've learned the hard way is that you don't have to please the right person.
ever since i've known the concept of romantic love, i have always been a partner pleaser.
i adjust according to their likes. i behave anxiously to avoid making them upset. i view their red flags as natural imperfections and not signs of toxicity.
i could be at war with myself just to give them peace of mind. i could keep my scream and silent cries to myself to keep them longer. and i could tolerate their shortcomings to avoid confrontations and unnecessary fights.
until someone came and made me realize that i could actually be unapologetically weird or be at my worst state, and still be worthy of staying with.
i could voice out boundaries, start arguments, demand change, and still be in an actual healthy relationship.
i realized that being in love does not mean that you have to forget about your worth just to prove your love to your partner. you could have a relationship that's grounded, worthwhile, and all the things that you hoped for without being a people pleaser.
because that right one does not need to be pleased to choose you.
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