I've seen men leave long term relationships, only to marry a woman they've known for just 5 months and do all the things their ex always begged them to do.
Here's a word of advice, stop preaching to these men, they hear you. They just don't bother. They don't care.
He’s not going to become the man you want because you’re not the woman he needs to be with.
People change for who they need. ❤️🩹
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Never let your spouse question their place in your life.
Respect is more than words, it's how you act and treat their heart. If your partner feels they're competing for your attention, you're weakening your relationship. Don’t create room for doubt or suspicion.
Every moment you dishonor their trust, you push them further away. If something would hurt or make them uncomfortable, don’t do it. If your actions can't stand in honesty, they’re not worth it.
Love doesn’t thrive on secrets. If you’re hiding parts of your life, you’re hiding parts of yourself.
Your phone, friendships, decisions, nothing should be off-limits. Transparency isn’t optional; it’s the foundation of trust and lasting love. Be where you said you'd be, do what you promised, and make them your priority.
Let them in completely, and build a love that lasts forever.
"I think about decisions in three ways: hats, haircuts, and tattoos.
Most decisions are like hats. Try one and if you don't like it, put it back and try another. The cost of a mistake is low, so move quickly and try a bunch of hats.
Some decisions are like haircuts. You can fix a bad one, but it won't be quick and you might feel foolish for awhile. That said, don't be scared of a bad haircut. Trying something new is usually a risk worth taking. If it doesn't work out, by this time next year you will have moved on and so will everyone else.
A few decisions are like tattoos. Once you make them, you have to live with them. Some mistakes are irreversible. Maybe you'll move on for a moment, but then you'll glance in the mirror and be reminded of that choice all over again. Even years later, the decision leaves a mark. When you're dealing with an irreversible choice, move slowly and think carefully."
Just because you get thousands of likes on your profile picture will not keep a man.
Being honest about things in your past will not keep a man.
Being faithful and loyal since day one doesn't keep a man.
Treating a man better than he's ever been treated before doesn't keep a man.
Making an effort every single day to make sure he knows you truly care will not keep a man.
Giving him all of your time that you can spare, doesn't keep a man.
You could have the best intentions in the world and could have the most sincere feelings, and you could be the most perfect woman in existence and you still wouldn't be able to keep a man.
The only way to keep a man is if that man wants to be kept by you.
With a man, you can tell he wants to be kept when the relationship gets very hard and he does everything to fight for you.
A man only fights for a woman he wants to belong to, so if he isn't fighting for you when things get hard, then that means he doesn't want to be kept by you anymore.
The truth im trying to make is, Don't hold on to a man who doesn't want to be kept by you.
You're not giving up on him. It's quite the opposite.
It's him who gave up on you, and it's you who shouldn't waste any more of your time than you already have.
Know when it's time to let go, know when it's time to walk away, and know when it's time for him to be unkept.
1. Always be faithful.
Even if your partner has not been with you, don't pay with the same coin. Respect yourself, don't trample on your dignity and don't make excuses or justify on the mistakes of the other person to clean up and justify your own decisions. Be honest above all. Don't lie to yourself.
2. Don't let your mind deceive you.
Everything starts from the mind, control it; Example: "We're just friends", "Just a call", "A little message", "A coffee", "It's just work things".
Lies! It's the trap of deception. Be with integrity and loyal .
3. Don't do to your partner what you wouldn't want done to you. Respecting and respecting each other is key.
4. Don't ignore or hide anything from your partner. Don't give more importance to virtual "friendships" that will never be with you. The time you lose on the cell phone and social networks, apply it to living with your partner, in quality time. That has caused a lot of problems and breakdowns. Value and keep the peace in your relationship.
5. Never block the communication This is critical to conflict resolution. Learn to communicate, to listen, don't interrupt, give space for your partner to express themselves without bothering you. Look for solutions, don't provoke rocks just because you don't like what you hear. Remember they are two and both should bring opinions and suggestions not just you.
6. Don't sell out your mate. Don't tell your partner's intimacies to your female friends or friends.
7. Don't be silent. Do not apply the ice law. Speak when you are calm; do not stop talking to your partner, do not build walls of pride and coldness.
8. Don't go to bed angry. So you have anger and pain, give yourself forgiveness before sleeping. Let humility and love prevail.
9. Never shout under any circumstances.
10. Don't exaggerate. ("Is that you always", "is that you never").
11. Don't make important decisions alone; without agreeing (business, money, schools, changes, travel). Everything must be agreed and in a team.
12. If they already have kids, don't fight in front of them. That causes psychological trauma and creates patterns of behavior that they will repeat as adults.
13. Don't abuse the nobility of your partner. Don't leave them more to do, don't load their hand.
14. Don't speak ill of your partner to third parties. Don't ridicule her when she's present; for example: "she snores horribly", "she doesn't know how to cook", "she's a bad friend", "bad pay", "drunk", "bad lover", "smells bad". That's psychological violence and you only project your own miseries.
15. Don't lose sight of the details, nice words, be presentable to the couple, flatter, reinforce day to day.
16. Don't refuse forgiveness when asked.
17. Think about separation when there are beating, physical and psychological abuse. May your life be in danger. Let there be infidelity; where respect and dignity is being lost for yourself.
18. Don't talk about the past of either of you; who you dated, who you hung out with, don't keep any communication with those people anymore. That's past, respect your new relationship. And less bringing old fights or discussions into new problems, that is reopening the fight.
19. Don't make comparisons between spouse and children, with other partners, children, friendships or acquaintances.
20. Build love together; talk, resolve, share, respect, understand, validate, not hide.
Never gossip about your wife to your mother, father, brother, or anyone else. The words you share about her should honor and protect her spirit. Your marriage is built on a foundation of trust, and every word spoken about her should reflect that.
When you marry someone, you choose to love them fully—not just in the good times but in moments of frustration, too. Sharing those frustrations with others can erode the sacred bond between you.
She is pure-hearted. In her, you find a partner who trusts you with her heart and soul. Speaking about her flaws or mistakes to others can chip away at the trust she has placed in you. Instead of airing her imperfections, cherish the qualities that made you fall in love with her. Hold her close in the space of your heart where love, not judgment, resides.
You chose to marry her, not your family. The promises you made to her on your wedding day are a commitment between the two of you, not a matter to be weighed by others. Your marriage is a sacred bond that should not be influenced by the opinions of outsiders, even if they are family. Remember that the unity you share with her is your responsibility to nurture and protect.
She matters to you. Her happiness, well-being, and sense of security in your relationship should be your priority. When you share private details about her with others, it can cause her pain. Instead, keep her close, understanding that she looks to you for the emotional safety of knowing that her heart is safe with you.
When you speak of your wife to others, speak with pride. Focus on her strengths, her kindness, and the beauty of your shared journey. By doing so, you uplift the essence of who she is, showing that your loyalty is not just to her presence but to her spirit. Protecting her name is a reflection of the love you have for her.
Your wife should never feel like she has to compete for your attention or validation with your family. It is your role to ensure that she feels valued, loved, and respected.
The way you speak about her to others will shape how they perceive her and how she feels within your marriage. Make sure that perception is one of love and respect.
No matter the challenges you face together, it’s important to resolve them within the walls of your home, where the bond of trust and understanding is strongest.
Venting to others might provide momentary relief, but it can cause lasting harm to your relationship. Let your home be a space where both of you can openly discuss your feelings without fear of being judged by others.
Your loyalty to your wife is a testament to the strength of your character.
It’s easy to complain when things are hard, but it takes strength to work through those moments with understanding and patience.
When you refrain from gossiping about her, you show that your commitment is unwavering, even in difficult times.
You know that she left her home and family to build a life with you. Honor that choice by being the partner who stands by her side, both in private and in public.
Let her know that she can trust you with her heart and that her secrets are safe with you. The security you provide will only deepen the love you share.
When your wife knows that you speak highly of her, even when she’s not around, it builds a profound sense of trust between you.
It assures her that she is loved for who she is, not just when she is perfect, but even when she is flawed and human.
It’s in this space of safety that true intimacy and connection are born.
Protecting her heart is a daily commitment, not just in grand gestures but in the small choices you make, like choosing to keep your challenges private. It’s about recognizing the power of your words and how they can either build or break the foundation of your love. Choose to build, choose to uplift, and choose to love her in a way that makes her feel cherished every day.
Protect your wife from your negligence. Pay attention to her needs and concerns, ensuring she feels valued and heard.
Protect your wife from your anger. Practice patience and understanding, allowing your home to be a place of peace and love.
Protect your wife from your pride. Be willing to admit when you're wrong and apologize sincerely, fostering trust and mutual respect.
Protect your wife from your indifference. Show her you care through your actions and words, reinforcing her importance in your life.
Protect your wife from your distractions. Prioritize quality time together, free from the interruptions of work and technology.
Protect your wife from your impatience. Give her the time she needs to express herself, knowing her thoughts and feelings matter to you.
Protect your wife from your insecurities. Offer her confidence and reassurance, supporting her dreams and ambitions.
Protect your wife from your unrealistic expectations. Accept her for who she is, embracing her flaws and celebrating her strengths.
Protect your wife from your past mistakes. Learn from them and strive to be a better partner, committed to a brighter future together.
Protect your wife from your silence. Communicate openly and honestly, creating a foundation of trust and intimacy in your relationship.
I just realized I still have so many unanswered questions!!!! I never found out who let the Dogs Out...where's the beef...how to get to Sesame Street... why Dora doesn't just use Google Maps...why eggs are packaged in a flimsy paper carton, but batteries are secured in plastic that's tough as nails...why women can't put on mascara with their mouth closed... why "abbreviated" is such a long word... why lemon juice is made with artificial flavor yet dish-washing liquid is made with real lemons... why they sterilize the needle for lethal injections... and, why do you have to "put your two cents in" but it's only a "penny for your thoughts" where's that extra penny going to... why do "The Alphabet Song" and "Twinkle Twinkle Little Star" have the same tune... why did you just try to sing those two previous songs... and just what is Victoria's secret? .....Peace!! 😂
Important things to remember when you are married or in a serious relationship:
Don’t ever assume your partner feels loved.
Date nights are a must.
Doesn’t matter if you go out, or stay in.
Talking openly about what you want to change in your relationship is important.
Learn each others love language.
We all don’t perceive love the same way.
Go to bed mad sometimes.
Don’t force a resolution.
Sleeping on it does help.
When you get into a fight, don’t just say “I’m sorry”. Say what you are sorry for, and how you will react differently next time.
It will get boring sometimes.
Every couple goes through the “boring” stage.
It’s normal.
It will fade.
This is the time in your relationship you will have to put the most effort in.
Some days you will have to pull more weight than your partner, and vice versa.
It’s important to check in on each other’s mental health.
It’s okay to go to couples counselling.
It helps.
It doesn’t mean you two are ending, or failing.
Talk about money.
Talk about your financial goals.
Let your partner know what you expect from them, and vice versa.
Turn off the phones an hour before bedtime and just talk to each other.
Ask questions like
“What do you need to see more of from me?”
“How can we understand each other better?”
And most importantly, be kind to each other.
Love each other.
Fight for each other.
Remember, love is never easy, and it’s one hell of a ride.
But damn, is it ever beautiful, and worth it.
Maybe the real happy ending is falling in love with the simplest parts of life.
It’s savoring that first sip of coffee in the morning, or losing yourself in the smell of freshly baked bread. It’s driving down familiar roads with the windows down, letting the air mess up your hair while your favorite song fills the car. It’s lingering on a quiet afternoon, reading the pages of a book you’ve put off for too long, letting each word wrap around you like an old friend. These moments — the ones that seem so ordinary — hold a kind of magic that fills the cracks we sometimes forget are there.
And maybe, just maybe, it’s finding a piece of joy in small things we often take for granted. Like the laughter that comes out of nowhere, shared with a stranger in a grocery store aisle. Or the comfort of a cozy night at home, wrapped up in a blanket, watching a show you’ve seen a hundred times but still brings a smile to your face.
It’s these little things that pull us back to life, that remind us of just how blessed we are, not because everything is perfect but because we find beauty in what we already have.
It makes no sense for you to say you love someone, and then you still say that you don't trust them.
Trust isn't only the foundation of love in relationships; it is the pillars, the walls, and the roof of the relationship. It is the entire structure on which love is built on.
Trust is the bedrock of every solid, meaningful relationship.
Love without trust is like building a house on quicksand; It would soon collapse.
Love without trust is like trying to drive a car without fuel; You won't go anywhere with it.
Trust transforms love from a fleeting attraction into an unbreakable emotional bond. When trust is present, love flourishes.
Claiming to love someone and at the same time saying you don't trust them is a misguided kind of love. If there's no trust, you'll second-guess their every action and their every word. That kind of toxic burden will eat away at your soul, and eventually the relationship will crumble.
Do you know what is scarier than jumping out of a plane without a parachute on? It is loving someone you can't trust. Trust allows you to be vulnerable, to lower your shield, and that is where real love thrives. Without it, you’re only playing a high-stakes game of emotional roulette.
Look, love might light the fire, but trust keeps it burning. In a world where everyone is looking out for themselves, trust is the most valuable currency. If you can't be sure that your partner has your back through thick and thin, what’s the point of being with them? Your love will always be under siege, constantly defending itself against the demons of doubt and suspicion.
To truly experience love, one must earn and give trust. This isn’t a one-sided transaction; both parties need to invest. Trust is that unspoken agreement, the silent promise that no matter what, you’re in this together. Strip it away, and love becomes a hollow shell.
So, is trust the foundation of love? Absolutely! Can love exist without trust?
Maybe for a bit, but it is a ticking time bomb that is destined to explode.
If you're serious about loving that person, make trust your number-one priority with them.
Without trust, love is vulnerable and weak. Build that trust, and you both stand invincible.
And in this high-octane, cutthroat, crazy world that we live in now, invincibility is the ultimate power.
Don't force him to do anything, don't pressure him to give you a place in his life, don't condition him so that he is thoughtful....
Don't beg him for caresses, or a furtive kiss, or hold your hand, don't make him give you explanations when something has you dissatisfied.
Don't insinuate how much you would like him to surprise you with a rose, don't show him that it hurts that he doesn't tell you how beautiful you look...
Don't tell him to treat you with tact and affection, that he saddens you when he stops talking to you, when he hangs up the phone, when he is not gentlemanly, or to dedicate songs, or romantic lyrics to you...
Don't commit him to supporting you in your difficult times, in your sorrows or when you have a broken heart, don't ask him for a hug, much less let him know what you need.
Don't die to hear him tell you: I love you, I need you, when he is no longer born to do it,
Do you know why?...
-Because whoever loves you sincerely, will not take care of you telling him anything, or asking him, or reminding him of the special dates.
The right man, the man who is for you, your exclusive, of your time and your life, the one that destiny has brought you for an indefinite time, will do all that and more to see you and make you happy if he really feels for you something real, unique... and never, but never will ever make you humble yourself and step on your dignity waiting for a "I love you".
Whoever is the right piece, will fit into your soul and will choose you every day to love you infinitely, he will procure you, he will respect you, you will not need to do something extraordinary, he will love you for the fact of being you, with all your virtues and all the mistakes.
Alone, do not despair, do not open the door to anyone without deserving it, there is that great love, which will come and heal every wound and every tear, to turn it into an excessive cry of happiness... there you will know and say...
It was worth the wait.
Your partner should be your strength, not your stress factor. When you choose to share your life with someone, they should be the person who lifts you up, not the one who pulls you down. Every relationship has its ups and downs, but your partner should be your safe place, where you feel valued and loved.
Your partner should be the one who believes in you when you find it hard to believe in yourself. They should remind you of your worth and encourage you when life gets tough. A loving partner sees the best in you and helps you become the person you’re meant to be.
Your partner should be a source of comfort on your worst days, offering a hand to hold and a heart to lean on. When life feels overwhelming, they should be the one who helps you through, not someone who adds to your worries. True love is about making each other’s burdens lighter, not heavier.
Your partner should inspire you to grow and improve, motivating you to reach for your dreams. They should be your biggest cheerleader, encouraging you to follow your passions. A partner who truly cares will celebrate your successes and stand by you during difficult times.
Your partner should be your rock, standing by you no matter what. They should believe in you, even when you're unsure of yourself. A supportive partner makes you feel secure, knowing that you’re never facing life’s challenges alone.
Your partner should respect your individuality, appreciating the things that make you unique. They should cherish your differences, knowing that they add depth to your relationship. A healthy relationship is built on mutual respect, where both people feel valued and understood.
Your partner should be able to talk openly with you, sharing their thoughts and feelings without holding back. They should be willing to have honest conversations, knowing that true connection comes from being open and real. Trust grows when both people feel safe to share their hearts.
Your partner should bring peace to your life, not conflict. Even when you disagree, they should try to find a solution together with you. Love should make you feel calm and secure, not leave you feeling tense or uneasy.
Your partner should help you find joy in the little things, reminding you that life is more than just struggles. They should be the one who makes you smile, who shares in your happy moments, and who helps you see the bright side, even when it’s hard to find. A relationship should feel like a shared journey toward happiness.
Your partner should be someone you can trust with your deepest feelings, without fearing judgment. They should create a space where you feel comfortable being yourself, even when you’re at your most vulnerable. Love is about accepting each other’s flaws, knowing that together, you can face anything.
When a man is gentle, soft, and consistently respects you, that's when your nervous system starts healing. That's why some women have that special glow when they're being loved right in a relationship. It’s not the love itself, it's the emotional safety that comes with being cherished and valued. The way a man creates a space where you feel seen and heard without judgment changes everything. It helps you breathe easier, smile deeper, and feel a sense of peace that you might have forgotten even existed.
When a man is patient with your emotions and embraces your vulnerability, it allows you to trust him deeply. It’s in those moments when he chooses understanding over frustration that you feel the weight of past pain lifting. His presence becomes a soothing balm to the wounds you’ve carried, and slowly, the pieces of your heart start to come together again. His patience is like a steady anchor amidst the storm, giving you the stability to navigate your inner world with newfound courage.
When a man stands by you during your hardest days, it teaches your nervous system that not every expression of pain will push him away. Instead, his consistency becomes a reminder that you are not too much, that your struggles are not a burden. It’s in his ability to stay through the rough patches that you learn to lean into love without the constant fear of abandonment. His loyalty becomes a foundation upon which you can rebuild your sense of security.
When a man speaks kindly, even in the face of disagreements, it softens your defenses. The way he chooses words that build bridges instead of walls tells you that he values connection over conflict. His gentleness diffuses the tension, making you feel safe to express yourself without fear of being attacked. This kind of communication heals wounds left by harsh words from the past, allowing you to feel at ease in his presence.
When a man shows genuine interest in your thoughts, your dreams, and your fears, it validates your entire being. It’s more than just listening; it’s about making you feel like what you say matters. His attentiveness sends a message to your nervous system that your voice deserves to be heard, that you are not invisible. This recognition helps you embrace your worth and rediscover your inner light, knowing that your existence is valued.
When a man offers reassurance during moments of self-doubt, it creates a sense of safety that allows you to bloom. His words become a reminder that you are enough, even when you feel far from it. With each assurance, he helps dismantle the inner critic that has held you captive for so long. His belief in you becomes a source of strength, helping you step into the fullness of your potential.
When a man respects your boundaries and honors your pace, it gives your nervous system the time it needs to trust again. He understands that healing is not a race, and his respect shows that he’s willing to walk alongside you without rushing the process. This patience cultivates a deeper sense of intimacy, where you feel comfortable being your authentic self without the pressure to change or hurry.
When a man celebrates your growth and acknowledges the progress you’ve made, it makes you feel truly seen. His support encourages you to keep evolving, knowing that your efforts are recognized and cherished. It’s not about perfection for him, but about being present through every stage of your journey. His appreciation for who you are becoming helps you embrace yourself with more love and acceptance.
When a man prioritizes your emotional well-being, it teaches you that you deserve to be cared for in a healthy way. His actions show that your peace matters to him, that your comfort is a priority. It creates a space where you can finally rest without carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders. This type of love doesn’t demand exhaustion; it offers a sanctuary where you can recharge and feel safe.
When a man chooses to grow with you instead of growing apart, it strengthens your bond. His willingness to work through challenges together shows that he’s invested in a shared future, not just in the good times but in the messy ones too. This commitment helps you trust the relationship more deeply, knowing that you are building something solid and enduring. His dedication to growth nurtures a connection where both hearts can heal and flourish together.
MY DEAR SISTERS, This is not an INSULT but a FRIENDLY ADVISE. Gone are the days where the ROAD to a MAN'S HEART is his STOMACH or the kind of MIND BLOWING SEX you give to him.
Please INVEST in yourself before MARRIAGE, so many women are ENDURING their MARRIAGES instead of ENJOYING same because they depend solely on their HUSBANDS. They ENDURE ABUSE, CHEATING and TOLERATE NONESENSE. If you don't have a LIFE before having a MAN, you will DIE with your COOKING SKILLS and SEX STYLES.
WORK and be INDEPENDENT before MARRIAGE. Let no MAN feel without him you cannot EAT. Do not leave your EXPENDITURES as a LADY for a man to carry, even if he is capable.
Please make no MAN your ATM MACHINE. No lady earns a Man's RESPECT that way. That ATTITUDE can even COST you a GOOD MAN. As long as he isn't MARRIED to you, don't depend on him for your FINANCIAL NEEDS, if he gives to you that’s fine, no problem let it be a PLUS.
Even when you are MARRIED, refuse to be DEPENDENT SOLELY on your HUSBAND, anything can happen and you will find yourself STRANDED and in need of MONEY. Stop looking up to those SMALL LADIES who think their HEAD OFFICES are located in their PRIVATE PARTS. One day they will be CRYING while you will be LAUGHING..
Have BIG DREAMS, there's nothing wrong as a lady, you WORK, SAVE MONEY, BUY a CAR and even BUY a HOUSE. Truth is any MAN who is THREATENED by the SUCCESS of a LADY is a WEAK MAN. SUCCESSFUL MEN wants SUCCESSFUL WOMEN also. Wisdom is profitable..
COMMON NEEDS OF A WOMAN IN A RELATIONSHIP
1. Emotional Support: To feel heard, validated, and supported.
2. Communication: Open, honest, and regular communication.
3. Trust: To trust her partner and feel secure.
4. Respect: To be treated with respect, kindness, and compassion.
5. Affection: Physical touch, intimacy, and emotional connection.
6. Quality Time: Spending quality time together, sharing experiences.
7. Independence: Maintaining her own identity, interests, and autonomy.
8. Emotional Intelligence: A partner who understands and manages their own emotions.
9. Supportive Partnership: A sense of teamwork and collaboration.
10. Personal Growth: Encouragement and support for her goals and aspirations.
11. Honesty and Transparency: Truthfulness and openness in all aspects.
12. Consistency and Reliability: Following through on commitments and being dependable.
Remember, every individual is unique, and what matters most can vary from person to person. Thats your reading baby
The meaning of true love from a man.
I hate to say this but most women will go their entire lifetime and never experience the meaning of actual true love.
It's even slightly depressing to think that most people will never understand how powerful this picture actually is.
This gentleman is a prime example of how men should be treating their partner with everyday that passes.
We unfortunately live in a generation with men who have no idea what it takes to be a real man.
Let me give you a couple examples of a real man ......
A real man asks about your day and genuinely cares about the answer.
A real man respects your boundaries and never forces you to anything you're not ready to do.
He makes time for you, and takes that time to learn and understand who you are as a person.
A real man consistently shows you the definition of effort with every day that passes.
He will call you randomly throughout the day just to check on you and your mental health.
A real man is undeniably committed to you and looks for new ways to fall in love with you with every day that passes.
He makes protecting your heart a number one priority.
A real man never makes permanent decisions based on temporary emotions.
He never confuses you on where you stand in his life.
A real man apologizes when he is wrong and stays true to his character.
He doesn't mind hurting other people's feeling to protect yours.
A real man gives you affection without sexual expectation.
A real man refuses to entertain any women that isn't you.
He has genuine intentions with you from day one and shows you how it truly feels to be a priority rather an option.
A real man will help you heal from the trauma that nobody apologized for.
A real man values you and would never put themselves in a position to lose you.
Take my advice and wait for the man that never let's you fall asleep at night questioning your own self worth.
Don’t drift too far from the child you used to be—the one who found joy in the smallest things, like chasing shadows or watching clouds form shapes in the sky.
Hold on to that curiosity, the way everything felt new and exciting. One day, when life feels overwhelming and happiness seems out of reach, that part of you can remind you of the little things that once made you feel so alive.
Sometimes, we get caught up in responsibilities, ticking off lists and chasing deadlines, forgetting the simple joys we used to cherish. Remember how the smell of rain could brighten your mood or how staring at the stars made everything seem possible? Those moments—often overlooked now—are the ones that brought you the purest happiness. It’s easy to lose that magic as we grow older, but that child inside is still there, waiting to remind you that life is about more than just getting through the day.
It’s about finding small wonders that still have the power to make you feel alive.
“You didn’t love me really, you just settled with me. I wasn’t actually the one you wanted, but you needed me. It was merely a perfect timing, and I was available to be the temporary fill. It was the perfect script, spoken by the wrong character. You made sure I felt that. You made sure I knew. I wish you weren’t so loud about it.”🥀🌷
When you remember me, it means that you have carried something of who I am with you, that I have left some mark of who I am on who you are. It means that you can summon me back to your mind even though countless years and miles may stand between us. It means that if we meet again, you will know me. It means that even after I die, you can still see my face and hear my voice and speak to me in your heart.
For as long as you remember me, I am never entirely lost.
"They will criticize you for what you are, for what you are not, and for what they think you are.
They will judge you for what you do, for what you don't do, and for what you fail to do. They will talk about you for what you say and for what you keep silent about.
They will point at you for your successes and for your mistakes,
for your decisions and for your doubts. No matter how much you try to please, there will always be opinions.
So, live for yourself, because in the end, the only thing that matters is being true to your own path."
"The True Essence of Love"
Love isn't just about saying "I love you" a thousand times. It's about understanding the depth of those three simple words, and the countless ways they manifest every day.
"Loyalty" isn’t only about staying committed when times are good. It’s about refusing to give up on each other when the storms hit, when arguments arise, and when frustration knocks at the door. It’s about holding on tightly, not walking away.
"Trust" is not about checking each other's phones or sharing passwords. It’s about sharing your heart, your laughter, and your tears, being completely transparent with each other, knowing that your bond is stronger than any secrets.
"Communication" isn’t just talking every day, but understanding the importance of continuing the conversation even after the hardest argument. It’s about not letting yesterday's pain silence today’s love.
And most importantly, a relationship isn’t about impressing anyone. It's about understanding, accepting the imperfections in each other, and loving each other more for it.
At the end of the day, love is not about perfection. It’s about the journey, the shared moments, the laughter, the tears, the imperfections, and the unconditional bond that keeps two hearts connected forever.
HABITS A WOMAN SHOULD LEARN AND PRACTICE IN MARRIAGE.
1.Play with your husband. Don’t be too serious always. Put romance and playfulness in your daily schedule. Look for ways to laugh together. Say something funny and do something funny.
2.Invite and Take a bath with your husband, especially at night. Enjoy the pleasure of bathing together. Showering with your spouse is sweet, intimate, and a great way to get fully comfortable with each other’s bodies. Tell him to help you scrub your back as you bathe together. Play together in the bathroom.
3 Give your husband a serious shoulder, back, and neck massage in the bathroom, bedroom, and living room as often as possible. You don’t need to be an expert to give your spouse a good message. Ask your spouse to lie on his body.
4 Say “I love you” to your husband often. Tell him and show him you love him so much. It is not only women that are moved by what they hear. Men are moved by what they hear too.
5 Call, Or Send A Romantic Text Message To Your Husband. Call, email, or send a romantic text message to him when you’re apart so he knows you are thinking of him. Call him on phone whenever he goes out just to say, “I love you”, and you can’t wait to see him back home. Do it now!
6.When your husband comes back from the office, meet him as if this is what you have been waiting for all day. Smile at him. Give him a kiss and a hug. Don’t have a sour face. Smile when you see him always and welcome him home with a hug. Let him know you are happy to see him. Help him unbutton his shirt as he undresses after an outing.
7.When last did you buy a gift for your husband? Surprise him with a fun gift of some kind that he’d enjoy having this month. Buy him a new set of underwear. Buy him new pair of socks, belts, shoes, shirts, trousers, wristwatch or handset. Nothing is too small or big to give to your dear husband.
8 Give your “Husband of the Year Award”, “Father of the Year Award” or “Lover of the Year Award”. Organize a special ceremony to celebrate this. Dedicate any award you receive or any book you write to your spouse.
9.Celebrate his birthday elaborately. Don’t take his birthday for granted. Call his friends, your friends, and your families to remind them of his birthday. Tell them to call and pray for him.
10.Never allow family members or friends to treat him disrespectfully: Defend him before anyone who dishonors him or trivializes his position as your husband.
11.Appreciate his efforts. Men like to be appreciated. Nothing provokes a man to perform than appreciation.
12.Cook his food promptly. Specially serve him. Treat him like a king. Serve your husband as your king. Special plates are for your husband, not for your pastor or visitors. Don’t just cook his food alone, serve it specially. Don’t delegate it to someone else. Treat him like a VIP. Treat him like a special guest on the dining table.
13.Dress to attract your husband always. Every man loves a good-looking and attractive woman. Don’t stop looking good because you are now married. Walk like a beauty queen. Put on a smiling face, and properly compose yourself. Get attractive wear (gown) for private use. Invest in sexy attires that turn him on when you are with him.
14.Support his vision and buy books that pertain to his career and vision for him: PRAY FOR YOUR HUSBAND ALWAYS. Believe in your husband. Make him know that you believe in him and his vision. Be his number-one fan.
15.Make your bedroom a sex sanctuary. Keep it clean, neat, and smelling fresh at all times. Don’t use your bedroom as a place to throw your dirty laundry.
16.Continue to show love to your husband, even if you don’t receive it. God who sees your efforts will touch his heart. When God steps in, miracles happen. (Galatians 6:9).
YOU WILL NOT FAIL IN MARRIAGE IN JESUS NAME
No matter how wealthy a husband is, the wife should also earn her own money. Whether through employment, or business. Whether she earns more money than him, she needs to earn her own money for the following reasons...
1."TO TAME THE HUSBAND"
Some Men cheat and feel like they can get away with cheating on a woman who has no financial muscle. These men who cheat know that the woman can do nothing without him and so she will stay home with the child/children regardless of how bad he treats her. The first thing a man who is cheating and destroying a woman does is to financially strangle her. When a man has a wife who is financially capable of standing on her own, he tends to be in his good behavior because he knows she can walk out the moment he cheats, even with the child/children because she is capable. Men rarely mess with empowered women, such a woman can stand up to him. Wives with no finances, put up with all the evil done to them because they have been locked out of outside help and contact; their life is at home, no matter how toxic that home is
2. FOR PERSONAL FULFILLMENT
In as much as men have dreams and feel fulfilled as they pursue them, women have dreams too. The same joy a man feels when providing for his family, building, funding projects; the woman should feel that too. Just like a man, when a woman does her dream job, lives her dreams, earns money and contributes to society; she feels more confident and filled with dignity
3. TWO ARE BETTER THAN ONE
A man is great by himself, but with his wife, he is greater; and so is the woman. When both husband and wife combine forces, they have better returns. More money never hurts a family that knows how to use money
4. TO PURSUE HER CAUSES
We all as individuals have a personal cause we want to take care of in society. A woman might feel passionate about the environment, the arts, cyber security, orphans, leadership, fashion, health. When she has her own money that she has earned, after using part of the money in the family and marriage; she can finance those personal causes without begging for her husband to believe in and fund what she is so passionate about. Having her own money empowers her
5. FOR STABILITY
Yes, storms happen in life. The husband can become broke, retrenched, his business can suffer huge losses or even worse, he could get sick or involved in an accident. When the productivity of the husband gets negatively affected or paused, the wife can step in even more and make sure the needs of the family are still met
6. TO MAKE GOOD USE OF HER SKILL
She was taken to good schools; Primary to High School, maybe even University. Perhaps she has a Degree, Masters or PhD. Life has also taught her a lot and she has gained many skills and much wisdom; surely, all that should be put into productive use. Lady, don't waste your life away. Get out there and get involved. Work
7. TO REDUCE OVER-DEPENDENCE ON THE MAN
Instead of her constantly turning to her husband and asking money for hair, fuel, food, clothes, sanitary pads. She can be interdependent. Yes, interdependent because lady, just because you earn your own money doesn't mean you two don't need each other. He is still your husband. You are in this together. The husband feels good when sometimes the wife says "Relax honey, I got this!" Now that is a Queen
8. TO MODEL TO THE CHILDREN
When mom is earning and is successful in her career or business; the son learns that women are not weak and that they can work hard just like men. The daughter learns to believe in herself and dream big dreams. 'If mum can do it, so can I' she thinks
9. TO BE AT PAR WITH HER HUSBAND
Many husbands eventually find their housewife not as challenging, the two drift apart. That is because, as the husband works and earns, he grows in many ways professionally, socially, mentally and physically. But the housewife, all her life is largely about children, and house chores. Conversations with her are not as engaging as with the people outside who are working or in business. The wife should find something challenging to do, even if it means running an online business or commercial blog. As she engages in more than household matters, she grows, just like the husband is growing
10. SHE IS MORE THAN A WIFE AND A MOTHER
A woman is capable of not just being a good wife and mother, but also a good social leader, business person, career woman, public figure, activist, scholar. She can balance it all. She has so much potential. There is more to her than being a wife and mother. She was created with a destiny to realize😍👍.
The day you manage to stay calm in front of whoever provokes you, when your silence is the right answer, the day you manage to stay calm in the face of the storm.
In the face of noise and foolish words, then you will have achieved the greatest of your successes, to dominate yourself.
It is no longer about winning or losing, being better or worse, having or not having the coveted reason,
it is not even about triumphing over others, it is about the fact that,
finally, you have reached the top of a very high mountain, and it is to conquer you, prioritize yourself and put your mental health first,
your emotional intelligence.
Observe and look around you, don't judge anymore, just observe the unhappiness, the lack of self-esteem, the burdens and pains that others must carry to live tending other people's lives, to be aware of the lives of others.
The more you love yourself, the less you will care about the projection in someone else's eye,
the more you love yourself; you will focus on improving yourself and only you.
I HAD TO LET HIM GO
I was drowning in the chaos he created, while he remained calm, unaffected, as I tried to save something that was never meant to be saved. His destructive behavior chipped away at my spirit, and in holding on, I lost myself. Eventually, I had to face the truth: I wasn’t fighting for love; I was fighting to survive in a relationship that was destroying me.
He was broken, but it wasn’t my job to fix him. Healing is a choice, and forcing change only tears you apart. I stopped blaming myself for his darkness and realized I could never be the light he refused to see.
Through healing, I learned that how someone treats you reflects their inner battles, not your worth. And the hardest lesson? Every time I overlooked his disrespect, I allowed it to continue. "What you tolerate, you encourage."
Moral of the story:
Never let anyone grow comfortable mistreating you. What you accept today will imprison you tomorrow. Boundaries aren’t barriers to love—they’re there to protect your heart. Loving yourself means walking away when someone’s behavior is no longer love, but a slow, painful erosion of your spirit.
"ARE YOU WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER?
During a seminar, a woman asked, "How do I know if I am with the right person?"
The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, “It depends. Is that your partner?”
In all seriousness, she answered “How did you know?”
“Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind.” replied the author.
Here’s the answer:
Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love.
People in love sometimes say, I was swept of my feet. Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.
Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone
else. This is when relationships breakdown.
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.
People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.
Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.
I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later.
Because (listen carefully to this)
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the Person you found.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.
Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.
Love is therefore a DECISION."
She deserves to be heard, dear man. Every word she speaks holds a piece of her soul, her thoughts, and her dreams. She deserves your undivided attention, a space where her voice is not just acknowledged but truly valued. Listen not just with your ears but with your heart. Her stories, her fears, her laughter—each part of her needs a space to unfold without judgment or interruptions.
She deserves your patience, dear man. She has weathered storms, carrying the weight of expectations, both spoken and unspoken. She deserves the grace of your patience as she unravels the layers of herself. It takes time for her to trust, to open up, to share the most delicate parts of her heart. Let your patience be a reflection of the love you have for her journey, knowing that healing and growth come at their own pace.
She deserves your respect, dear man. Beyond the titles of wife, mother, sister, or partner, she is her own person—unique, whole, and worthy of respect. She deserves a love that honors her as an individual, a respect that sees her as equal in every way. Her boundaries, her choices, her dreams—these are to be cherished, not diminished. Respect her autonomy, and you’ll witness the depth of her love in return.
She deserves a safe space, dear man. The world can be harsh, and she faces battles you may never fully understand. She deserves a home in your presence, a place where she can let go of her guard and just be. Let her feel safe enough to show you her vulnerabilities, her raw and unfiltered emotions. Become her shelter when the outside world feels too cold and too distant.
She deserves your time, dear man. It’s not just about the moments you spend together but the intention behind them. She deserves to know that she is a priority, not an afterthought. Make time for her even in your busiest days; show her that she matters. Your time is a gift, and in giving it freely, you show her that she is cherished in every small and significant way.
She deserves to be seen, dear man. Not just for her beauty, but for the essence of who she is. She deserves to be seen beyond the roles she plays—seen for her spirit, her quirks, her strengths, and her weaknesses. Look at her with the same curiosity and admiration you had when you first met. Let her feel that even in the ordinary moments, she is extraordinary to you.
She deserves your honesty, dear man. Trust is the foundation of every great love story, and she deserves a truth that is unwavering. Be honest about your thoughts, your feelings, your intentions. She deserves a love that is real, where there is no room for deceit or hidden agendas. It is through honesty that she will feel secure, knowing that your love is rooted in authenticity.
She deserves your kindness, dear man. The world can be a hard place, but you can be a soft spot for her to land. She deserves your gentle words, your considerate gestures, your understanding in times when she needs it most. Kindness is what builds a relationship that lasts—one where she knows that even when things are difficult, she can count on your compassion.
She deserves to be appreciated, dear man. For every little thing she does, seen and unseen, she deserves to know that her efforts are valued. Whether it’s the way she cares for you, the warmth she brings into your home, or the strength she shows when times are tough—let her know that you see her. Appreciation is what fuels her spirit and lets her know that her presence in your life is a true blessing.
She deserves to be loved deeply, dear man. Not just with words, but with actions that make her feel treasured. She deserves a love that isn’t afraid to be vulnerable, a love that stands by her side through every season. Love her in a way that makes her feel chosen every single day. Let your love be her constant reminder that she is more than enough—worthy of a love that is unwavering, passionate, and true.
The day you manage to stay calm in front of whoever provokes you, when your silence is the right answer, the day you manage to stay calm in the face of the storm.
In the face of noise and foolish words, then you will have achieved the greatest of your successes, to dominate yourself.
It is no longer about winning or losing, being better or worse, having or not having the coveted reason,
it is not even about triumphing over others, it is about the fact that,
finally, you have reached the top of a very high mountain, and it is to conquer you, prioritize yourself and put your mental health first,
your emotional intelligence.
Observe and look around you, don't judge anymore, just observe the unhappiness, the lack of self-esteem, the burdens and pains that others must carry to live tending other people's lives, to be aware of the lives of others.
The more you love yourself, the less you will care about the projection in someone else's eye,
the more you love yourself; you will focus on improving yourself and only you.
Protect your wife from hurtful words or actions by family members. Make sure she feels safe and valued in your life. When family situations become stressful, remind her that she is your priority, and you’ll stand by her no matter what. Your love and support will make her feel secure.
Protect your wife by standing beside her during family events. Make sure she feels included and respected. If disagreements happen, show her that her feelings matter to you. Being there for her helps her feel less alone and more loved in those moments.
Protect your wife by not letting anyone criticize or hurt her. Speak up if someone says something unkind to her, even if it’s unintentional. Let your family know that she deserves respect, and you won’t allow anyone to treat her poorly. This will show her that she can trust you to keep her safe.
Protect your wife by being a comforting presence when she’s upset by family issues. Listen to her when she needs to share her feelings. Let her know that you understand and that she doesn’t have to face these challenges alone. Your support can ease her worries.
Protect your wife from the pressure of meeting unrealistic expectations from your family. Whether it’s about traditions or roles, don’t let her feel overwhelmed. Encourage her to take things at her own pace and remind her that you’re with her every step of the way.
Protect your wife by making sure her boundaries are respected. Family life can be complicated, but her comfort comes first. Show her that you respect her needs and won’t let anyone cross those lines. It will reassure her that you care deeply about her well-being.
Protect your wife from feeling left out or misunderstood by your family. If there are cultural or generational differences, help your family see things from her perspective. This will help her feel more accepted and loved, making her feel like a part of your family.
Protect your wife by sharing the responsibilities when it comes to taking care of family matters. Don’t let her carry the weight alone, especially during tough times. Show her that you are a team and that you’ll face challenges together. This will strengthen your bond and make her feel loved.
Protect your wife by always thinking about her peace of mind during family conflicts. If things get tough, remind her that her happiness matters most to you. Sometimes, that might mean stepping back from stressful situations to make sure she feels safe and calm.
Protect your wife by reminding her that she is your chosen partner and that she comes first. Let her know that your heart is with her, no matter what happens. This will make her feel cherished and secure in your love, giving her the strength to face any challenges together.
A lot of people ask what men truly want, and the answer is really simple. A woman can’t fully honor and appreciate a man’s efforts if she doesn’t feel safe and secure with him. This is something we all need to understand. When a man creates that sense of safety, she will naturally give back love, care, and respect.
When a man takes responsibility and shows up with honesty, he creates a space where his partner feels protected. This is what allows her to open up, to trust, and to love fully. She feels safe, not just physically, but emotionally too. And when a woman feels secure, she will treat her partner with admiration and kindness. She will see him as her rock, someone she can count on.
It’s not about controlling the relationship or demanding respect. It’s about doing what’s right, being there for each other in both the good and tough times. When a man does that, he earns his partner’s love in a way that’s real and deep. She will honor him because she knows he’s got her back.
Men often want to feel like they’re valued, like their efforts matter. But this doesn’t come from forcing it. It comes naturally when a man shows care and responsibility. A woman who feels secure with her partner will give her heart fully. She’ll support him, respect him, and show him love without holding back.
When a man listens, understands, and stands by his partner, she will feel that connection and give him all the love he needs. It’s not about grand gestures; it’s the small, everyday actions that show he cares. That’s what makes her want to treat him like a king.
A man’s role is to make his partner feel safe, emotionally and physically. When he does that, he earns her respect. She knows she can rely on him, and this builds a trust that’s hard to break. With that trust comes love, admiration, and a deeper bond.
This isn’t about one person doing all the work; it’s about being there for each other. A man who creates that feeling of safety will have a partner who supports him and shows him love in return. She will be his strength, just as he is hers.
No relationship is perfect, and there will be times when things feel hard. But if both partners are committed to making each other feel safe and appreciated, they can get through anything together. It’s all about showing up for one another with love and care.
If a man takes responsibility and makes his partner feel secure, he will be treated with love, care, and respect. It’s a natural give-and-take that creates a strong and lasting connection. He’ll feel like a king, not because he asks for it, but because he has earned it by being a steady, loving partner.
So, my dear friends, when a man steps into his role with responsibility, he will receive all the love, attention, and honor he desires. It’s not about being perfect, but about creating a space where both partners can feel safe and loved. And when that happens, love flows naturally, and both partners thrive.
If you love an overthinker, there are things you need to know.
Their neediness isn't simply neediness-it's fear. I promise you, no one is more tired by their overactive mind than they are. They live with it every day, and wish they could live life without the dozen hypotheticals invad-ing each moment. But they can't.
It's sometimes difficult to see, but there is beauty in over-thinking. Those people who are most afraid to hurt are also those ones who love the most. If you love an overthinker,
you should appreciate that. Be there for them.
Tell them you're not going away.
Reassurc them. They are still learning to trust. They're learning to let go of
their fears because the one before you walked away after love got a little hard. They are fighting every day to win the biggest battle, the battle against their own mind😊👍
I don't want a relationship. I want a best friend. Someone I can fall peacefully asleep with on the couch in the middle of a hallmark movie.
Someone I can laugh with until we cry tears of joy.
Someone I can build a future with and ultimately grow with.
Someone I can eat our favorite snacks with and talk about our fondest childhood memories.
Someone I can make love with and when I look in their eyes I get a feeling that is nearly indescribable.
Someone I know so well that I can finish what they are going to say before they even say it.
Someone I can hold hands with and feel a connection so strong that I know nothing on the face of this earth can shake what we possess together.
Someone who I cannot wait to dream about every single night when I gently close my eyes.
Take my advice and wait for someone who's not only your bestfriend in a relationship but someone who you can trust with all of your heart and soul
Love never truly fades. Even when someone is no longer part of your life, the love you felt for them remains within you. It transforms and becomes a part of your emotional landscape, but it doesn’t disappear. Learning to live without someone you once loved deeply is one of the hardest lessons, but over time, you find a way to carry on, holding that love in a different, quieter place within your heart.
Advice: It’s okay to still feel love for someone, even after they’re gone. Healing is about learning to live with that love, not erasing it.
No matter how well you treat a man, if you're not the one he truly wants, he won't appreciate your efforts. The worst feeling is trying to be the right woman for the wrong man. Even at your best, you won't be enough for him.
Stop trying to make something work that isn't meant to. When the right man comes into your life, you won't have to force communication or attention. You'll be valued and respected without trying so hard.
“I know it makes sense for him to sleep so that he will have the energy to tidy up the house and cook me dinner tomorrow, but still I am angry that he is sleeping. I want to wake him up because being awake for hours in the middle of the night, feeding a newborn, can be so lonely.
Breasfeeding is the most amazing thing I have ever done but at the sime time it is, at least for the first few weeks, one of the hardest things that I have done. I kept thinking that women should really get more appreciation for all this hard work. “
Many claim that they are bored in their marriage and so turn outside or get lured outside.
Though unfaithfulness has no excuse, how can two grown adults married to each other with sexual needs, spice up their love and sex life?
1. "Have secret codes"
Call each other secret intimate names that only you two know. This adds thrill between you two
2. "Have no boundaries on what you can tell each other sexually" You should express all your sexual thoughts without inhibition to your spouse, not an outsider. No editing your naughtiness
3. "Don't over spiritualize sex"
Don't over spiritualize love making and your marriage to the point where making love is viewed as less Godly.
True spirituality merges with the physical and emotional needs in love making in marriage. Alot of people feel frustrated because their spouse has a negative view towards sex
4. "Emotionally be available for each other"
Let your spouse be the person you can lean on, the person you can tell how you truly feel.
People have an affair with an outsider because they feel emotionally disconnected from their spouse. Stay emotionally connected to your spouse
5. "Plan for love making"
In affairs, there is a longing, a build up to sex. In marriage, have moments when you two scheme how you will make love.
Plan everything. The time, the romance, the use of petals on the floor or extra sweet actions of love, the purchasing of massage oil.
Prepare your spouse by telling him/her what you will do to his/her body. Have moments when making love is not the only agenda
6. "Give each other no stress"
The person people tend to have an affair with don't give stress, instead, they are a stress reliever.
Affairs are built on a place to escape to. Don't be the person your spouse wants to escape from but, be the person your spouse wants to run to
7. "Give your sexual parts a name"
His penis should be given a name and her vagina too. A name that only the two in the marriage know. Secret names make two people feel they have something special going on
8. "Talk more than domestic stuff"
Don't let your marriage be reduced to talking about domestic issues: house rent, bills, children's report card, bills, chores, responsibilities, in-laws.
All these are good but be exciting. Be fun. Talk about life. Joke around. Have a good time. People run to affairs because they are a break from the domestic matters
9. "Be playful"
Gently grab her butt. Stroke her thighs unexpectedly. Rub his penis without warning. Grab her waist.
Spank each other. Be suggestive. Tease your spouse. Lady, bend down deliberately so that he sees your nice butt, rub your butt on his penis as you cook
10. "Flirt"
Alot of flirting goes on in affairs; whether on the phone or face to face. Flirting should take place in your marriage. Talk sexually to your spouse even when you're far from each other. As you cook, or do chores; flirt with each other
11. "Be secretive"
Don't tell your friends about your sexual marital experiences. Keeping those experiences a secret heightens their thrill. This is why affairs are often kept a secret
12. "Go beyond the marriage bed"
Making love shouldn't happen in the bedroom only. Get creative. Make love in the shower, on the sofa, kiss up on the wall, make out.
Affairs get their allure because of their lack of rules. There is no rule that making love or making out should be done on the bed alone
13. "Play music that sets the mood"
Play some love songs, slow jams. Have songs that remind you how that intimate moment last night was sweet. Your marriage will come alive
14. "Travel"
In affairs, people go for road trips and travel, they book hotels. Do that with your spouse. See the world. Make new experiences
15. "Have a bedroom make over"
The same look in the bedroom will eventually get boring. After a long while, change the decor and settings of the bedroom to inspire a fresh flame
16. "Look the part"
Don't get comfortable. Work on looking sexy. Invest in lingerie, stay clean, smell good. Don't be the same old person to your spouse.
I don't need to pretend; I'll express my feelings freely. I don't require your validation for my actions. As a human, I surround myself with people for a reason. Treat me nicely, and I'll treat you even nicer. However, if you disrespect me, don't expect respect in return. I won't stoop to your level; instead, I'll walk away and pretend you never existed.🥀🌷
Kids aren’t your husband or life partner; they’ll have their own life and eventually their own partner. As parents, it’s easy to feel as though we are the center of their world, but that’s only true for a small window of time.
Our role is to nurture them, guide them, and equip them to face the world, but never to hold them back from spreading their wings.
As they grow, we must remember that the foundation we lay for them is meant to give them strength, not chains. They will form their own dreams, passions, and relationships that will shape the course of their lives. And while we are there to support and love them unconditionally, they are not ours to possess or control. It's important to let them experience life on their terms, even if it means stepping back when we'd prefer to hold on tighter.
One of the hardest lessons in parenting is learning to let go. It’s an act of trust and faith — faith in the upbringing we’ve given them and trust in their ability to navigate their journey. Our children aren’t meant to fill the voids in our lives or compensate for unmet expectations we may have. They are unique souls on their own path, and our job is to walk alongside them for as long as they need us, not to walk in front of them or carry them.
We also must realize that, in a way, children reflect what we show them in our relationships.
If we pour everything into them at the expense of nurturing our partnership with our spouse, they may grow up with a distorted view of what love and commitment look like. By maintaining a loving and supportive relationship with our life partner, we demonstrate the value of partnership and the balance between familial bonds and romantic ones.
The relationship we have with our children will evolve over time, shifting from one of dependency to one of mutual respect and admiration.
They will move forward, forging their own paths, and one day, they may become the parents in the same role we are in now. The cycle continues, and it's essential to accept that this natural progression is part of life's beauty.
It's vital to prepare ourselves emotionally for that day when their primary attachment will no longer be us, but someone else. It doesn’t mean we lose them; it just means their circle of love expands, and we need to make space for others in their lives.
Being able to celebrate their growth, their partnerships, and their future families is a testament to the love and trust we’ve nurtured over the years.
As parents, we may find ourselves adjusting to an emptier house or less frequent calls, but that doesn’t diminish our role in their lives. The bond between parent and child is timeless, and no amount of physical or emotional distance can break that. What we must aim for is a relationship built on mutual respect, where they feel empowered to come to us when they need guidance, not out of obligation or guilt, but out of love and trust.
In our role as life partners, it’s essential to maintain the connection with our spouse. When the children leave, we are left with the person we chose to build a life with, and that relationship deserves as much care and attention as any other. It's crucial not to lose sight of this bond during the busy years of parenting, for it's the love between partners that will carry us through all phases of life, even when the children are no longer in our care.
Parenthood is a journey of giving — we give our love, time, and effort to raise the next generation, but we must also take care of ourselves and our own relationship.
As the kids grow and go, we need to remain grounded in our connection with our spouse, ensuring that this relationship stands strong as the central pillar of our family.
The greatest gift we can give our children is the example of a healthy, loving relationship between their parents. This allows them to form their own strong bonds in life, knowing that love, independence, and mutual respect can coexist.
Our kids aren’t our life partners, but through our example, they learn what it means to build meaningful, lasting relationships of their own.
Be My Forever
There comes a time when you realize that temporary connections aren’t enough anymore. You crave something deeper, something lasting.
💫 I want you to be my forever.
Not just someone who passes through my life, but someone who stays, through every up and down, through the laughter and tears.
❤️ Be my constant.
I know that life changes, people come and go, but I want you to be the one who remains, no matter what.
🌹 Be my permanent.
Because what we have, it’s special. It’s rare. It’s the kind of love that deserves to last a lifetime.
Promise me something..
" I'll love you forever "
No, not that.
Promise me you'll understand my little insecurities, my doubts, my reasonless fears.
Promise you'll get it when I want to push everyone away.
Promise me that even when we fight, you still believe I'm a good person.
Maybe I need someone who knows me too well and still choose to love me.. Rather than someone who loves me because they don't know everything.
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"Waiting for the day when I will see you and hold you tight... 🤗❤️
The days feel longer without you, but every moment apart only makes the thought of being together again even sweeter.
I dream of your arms around me, of the way your hugs melt all my worries away, and how everything feels right when we’re close. It's in those embraces that I find my peace, my happiness, and my home.
No distance can diminish the love we share. Every second we’re apart is just a countdown to the moment we’ll be wrapped up in each other’s arms again.
Until that beautiful day comes... know that I’m always holding you close in my heart. 💕
"The Absent Father Effect on the Daughter" by Susan Schwartz explores the impact of father absence on daughters' lives and relationships.
Here are 10 lessons from the book: 👇👇
1. Father-Daughter Bond: The father-daughter relationship plays a crucial role in a girl's emotional development and self-esteem. Schwartz highlights the significance of this bond and its lasting effects on daughters' lives.
2. Emotional Consequences: Father absence can lead to a range of emotional consequences for daughters, including feelings of abandonment, inadequacy, and low self-worth. Schwartz examines how these emotional wounds can affect girls' relationships and well-being into adulthood.
3. Impact on Identity: Fathers play a pivotal role in shaping their daughters' sense of identity and self-image. Schwartz explores how father absence can leave daughters searching for validation and approval from others, impacting their sense of self.
4. Attachment Issues: Father absence can result in attachment issues and difficulty forming healthy relationships. Schwartz discusses how daughters may struggle with trust, intimacy, and vulnerability due to unresolved father-daughter issues.
5. Interpersonal Patterns: Daughters may unconsciously seek out relationships that mirror their experiences with their absent fathers. Schwartz explores how father absence can influence daughters' interpersonal patterns and romantic choices.
6. Healing and Recovery: Recognizing the impact of father absence is the first step toward healing. Schwartz offers strategies for daughters to acknowledge and process their emotions, cultivate self-awareness, and engage in self-care to facilitate healing and recovery.
7. Forgiveness and Letting Go: Forgiveness can be a powerful tool for daughters to release anger and resentment toward their absent fathers. Schwartz discusses the importance of forgiveness in the healing process and letting go of past hurts to move forward.
8. Building Support Networks: Building a strong support network is essential for daughters coping with father absence. Schwartz encourages daughters to seek support from friends, family, therapists, and support groups to navigate their emotions and experiences.
9. Empowerment and Self-Empathy: Daughters can empower themselves by reclaiming their narratives and embracing self-compassion. Schwartz emphasizes the importance of self-empathy and self-love as daughters navigate their journeys of healing and self-discovery.
10. Breaking Generational Patterns: Breaking generational patterns of father absence requires conscious effort and self-awareness. Schwartz encourages daughters to cultivate healthy relationships, set boundaries, and prioritize their well-being to create a different legacy for future generations.
These lessons from "The Absent Father Effect on the Daughter" shed light on the profound impact of father absence on daughters' lives and offer insights into the journey of healing and self-empowerment.
A MAN SETTLES where he finds PEACE. Not BEAUTY, not STATUS, not MONEY, but PEACE...I don't agree with this! "A MAN SETTLES where he wants to SETTLE not necessarily because you give him PEACE OF MIND. Nothing keeps a man who doesn't want to be kept. To the WRONG MAN even your PEACE will look like TROUBLE to him. It's so funny Men always say they WANT a woman who gives them PEACE yet they are the ones giving TROUBLE..
Most MEN don't care about your SACRIFICES, they are just LOYAL to their FEELINGS.. What most men interpret as PEACE is that you should be able to tolerate nonsense, abuse and allow them to CHEAT IN PEACE. They don't want ACCOUNTABILITY, COMMITMENT and RESPONSIBILITY.
Being a good woman with character doesn't keep a MAN. Being a good cook doesn't keep a MAN. Being a pornstar in bed rotating 360%, giving him wheelbarrow style, lizard style and snake in the monkey shadow style will only break your spinal cord and waist, that still doesn't keep a MAN.
Being a woman of peace BAPTIZING him with PEACE OF MIND doesn't keep a MAN.
WHAT SETTLES a man is himself when he FEARS GOD, is disciplined and respect his woman enough to settle with her. To the WRONG MAN even at your best you still won't be good enough, but to the RIGHT man at your worst you will be worth it because he values you, respect you and appreciate you.
My brothers, you cannot keep being a HURRICANE to your WIFE, CHEATING, DISRESPECTING and ABUSING her then expect her to give you PEACE. When you love and treat your woman right, she becomes legally blind to the world, she sees only you and will worship you, giving you PEACE will flow effortlessly and naturally from her. PEACE is EARNED NOT DEMANDED. The way a woman treats her man will always be a reflection of how the man treats her.
Relationships come to an end when we stop putting any effort into them. All too often we start taking our partners for granted, thinking they will never leave us or will never stop loving us. We continue to take them for granted... we ignore them, leave them alone for longer periods or don't call and message them as often. Sometimes we leave them alone on their own and get busy with other priorities so much that at times we completely forget about them altogether. Worst of all - we're not there when they need us they may just think that because our priorities towards them have changed, our feelings have too. It's easy to forget that love always needs attention and care. You can't take your love for granted and expect them to be with you when you need them... no one waits around forever - everyone gets tired of waiting eventually. If you maintain the same effort into maintaining your relationship as you did to win them in the first place, there will never be an end to a loving relationship. Never change your priorities and make your love feel they are no longer important to you.
WISDOM FROM RICH DAD.
1. Don’t work for money:
Rich don’t work for money. If you work for money, your mind will start thinking like an employee. If you start thinking differently like a rich man, you will see things differently. Rich works on their asset column, every dollar in their asset column is their hard-working employee.
2. Don’t be controlled by emotions:
Some people’s lives are always controlled by the two emotions of fear and greed. Fear keeps people in this trap of working hard, earning money, working hard, earning money, and hoping that it will reduce their fear. Secondly, most of us have the greed to get rich quickly. Yes, many people become rich overnight, but they have no financial education. So educate yourself and don’t be greedy or fearful.
3. Acquire assets:
Don’t buy liabilities on your way to financial freedom. People buy liabilities and think these are assets, but they are not. Many people buy luxuries first, like big cars, heavy bikes, or big houses to live in. But the rich buy assets and their assets buy luxuries. The rich buy houses and rent them, and they pay them for their Lamborghinis. The poor or middle class buy luxuries first, and the rich buy luxuries last.
4. Remember the KISS principle:
KISS stands for keeping it simple, and stupid. Don’t be too overloaded your mind when you are going to start your way to financial freedom. Things are simple and keep them simple. The simple thing to remember is assets put money in pocket and liabilities take money out of pocket. Always buy assets so they put money into your pocket.
5. Know the difference between assets and liabilities:
Assets are anything that puts money in your pocket, like stocks, bonds, real estate, mutual funds, rental properties, etc. Liabilities are anything that pulls money out of your pocket, like your house, your car, debt, etc. People think their home is their biggest asset, but it is not. A house is an asset when it generates money like when you rent a house, it generates money, and when your life in that house becomes a liability.
6. Don’t be a financial illiterate:
A person can be highly educated and become successful in their profession, but financially illiterate. Financial education is very important for any individual. Our schools and colleges did not teach us financial education. Many financial problems arise as a result of a lack of financial education. Start learning financial education and I suggest you read the book "Rich Dad, Poor Dad".
7. Increase your Wealth:
Wealth is defined as a person's ability to survive for a certain number of days in the future, or how long they could survive if they stopped working today. Consider your wealth and whether you would survive if you stopped working today for a year.
8. Mind your own business:
If you have a job, keep your job and start a part-time business and work it. Use the time that you spend on your iPhone, parties, or any other activity, to build your business. Never leave your job until you build your own business. Don’t struggle all of your life for someone else. Start your own business and grow your business.
9. Train your mind:
Your biggest asset is your mind. Many individuals watch opportunities with their eyes, but if you train your mind, you can see opportunities with your mind. If you train your mind well, it can create enormous wealth.
10. Learn technical skills:
Your financial IQ will be raised by learning these four technical skills:
Accounting is defined as the ability to read numbers. If you want to build an empire, then this is an essential skill. By learning this skill, you will be able to understand the strengths and weaknesses of a business.
Investing: It is the science of making money.
Understanding markets: It is the science of supply and demand.
The Law: A person who knows the law of tax advantages and corporations can get rich faster than others.
11. Find opportunities that everyone else missed:
"Great opportunities are not seen with your eyes. They are seen with your mind. "
You can see many more opportunities with your mind than many people miss with their eyes. It is not rocket science, you just need to train your mind.
12. Learn to manage risk:
Investment is not risky, not knowing the investment is risky. If you want to reduce the risk, then increase your knowledge. This knowledge will not come by going to college, it will come by reading books or sitting with people who know the investment.
13. Learn management:
The main management skills are:
Management of cash flow
Management of system
Management of people
Sales and marketing are the most essential skills. The ability to sell and the ability to communicate with another human being, be it a customer, employee, fiancé, friend, or child, is a basic skill of personal success.
14. Manage fear:
“Failure inspires winners. Failure defeats losers.”
Everyone has a fear of losing money.
People will leave you in the cold but get mad when you learn to get warm by yourself.
They wanted you to feel their absence, but instead, you just learned to get by without them.
Their absence only taught you self-reliance.
You may also realize that once you've lost that emotional investment in them, they suddenly become very ordinary people.
It was your love that made them special. But now that they take your love for granted and try to hurt you instead, you just retrieve your feelings.
Once people have learnt to live without you, that's the end.
You should never play games with people who care about you because they will not wait for you forever.
They may be long suffering, but they're not forever suffering.
In this world of selfishness and fakeness, you're in luck if you find someone who truly cares.
Take care while they still care.
To play with a person who only wants the best for you is like scoring own goals and thinking you're winning.
If you don't want someone, release them. But you should never tie someone down in a relationship and then start playing with their feelings.
You may win the games, but you'll lose the person for good.
A baby crowning, a moment of truth,
A sign that the end is near, uncouth.
The culmination of months of waiting,
The beginning of the journey breathtaking.
With each contraction, the baby descends,
Closer and closer until it transcends
The barrier between the womb and the world,
And into a new reality, it's hurled.
The head emerges, a miracle to see,
A small, dark, and downy chick, carefree.
The body follows, slick with fluids and blood,
A little life, all at once, understood.
The mother groans, a primal sound,
As she pushes and strains until she's unbound.
The baby slips out, with a final heave,
Into her arms, where it can safely breathe.
And there it is, a baby crowning,
A new life, a miracle, surrounding.
A tiny being with infinite potential,
Ready to grow, to thrive, to be essential.
So let us celebrate this moment so rare,
As we witness the start of a journey, so fair.
A baby crowning, a beginning anew,
A reminder of the beauty that life can ensue.
Here's our group for moms WORTHY MOMS
EFFECTS OF TECHNOLOGY TO RELATIONSHIPS AND MARRIAGES:
Technology can have both positive and negative impacts on relationships and homes. Here are some ways technology can negatively affect relationships:
1. Social media addiction: Excessive social media use can lead to decreased face-to-face interaction and deepened feelings of loneliness.
2. Cyber infidelity: Online flirtations or affairs can damage trust and intimacy.
3. Decreased communication: Over-reliance on digital communication can lead to misunderstandings and decreased emotional intelligence.
4. Increased distractions: Constant notifications and digital stimulation can reduce quality time spent together.
5. Unrealistic expectations: Social media often presents unrealistic relationship standards, leading to disappointment and dissatisfaction.
6. Privacy issues: Sharing personal information online can compromise relationship privacy and trust.
7. Escapism: Technology can serve as an unhealthy escape from relationship issues rather than addressing them directly.
8. Lack of boundaries: Constant connectivity can blur personal boundaries, leading to burnout and resentment.
9. Comparison and envy: Social media comparisons can foster envy and decreased contentment in one's own relationship.
10. Addiction: Technology addiction can lead to neglect of relationship responsibilities and emotional needs.
It's essential to maintain a balance between technology use and nurturing your relationships. Set boundaries, prioritize face-to-face interaction, and address issues directly to promote healthy relationships.
LADIES PLEASE TAKE NOTE!!!!!
Men attend to Women for two reasons, SEX, and LOVE, but in most cases, men do not Marry for Sex or for Love, they marry for STABILITY.
Let me explain
A man can Love you and not Marry you. A man can have sex with you for years without marrying you. But immediately he finds someone who brings stability in his life, he marries her.
What I mean by Stability is "Peace of Mind" I have seen some guys who made this statement "I love this lady but I don't think I can spend the rest of my life with her." Men are visionaries when they think about marriage, they do not think about wedding dresses, bridesmaids, anything that most Ladies thinks is fanciful.
They think whether this woman can build me a home,Can she take care of my kids and I,Can she give me PEACE of mind?. Men don't like Ladies who gives them discomfort, This is why a man can stay with a woman for years and meet another in a month, then get married to her.
It's the comfort of having Peace of Mind they want. Sex is a pleasure, love is an affection, RESPECT is Stability...
14 WAYS TO CORRECT YOUR HUSBAND WITHOUT HURTING HIS EGO
1. LOWER YOUR VOICE
Don't shout at him..He is not your child. Although sometimes he acts like a child but yes you can correct him in a minimum volume tone.
2. DO IT IN LOVE
Correction should be done in love. Remember your husband is a human too. He makes mistakes and so are you.
3. NEVER EVER CRITICIZE YOUR HUSBAND IN PUBLIC OR INFRONT OF YOUR FRIENDS.
Stop criticizing him, especially infront of your friends or family, that is very degrading to men, rather correct in love, just whisper with a gently hug. Most will say it's constructive criticism. But girl, men have egos too.. there self esteem are easy to breakdown.
Correction is the act of offering better options.
Correction and criticism are never the same
4. LETS CUT THE SAYING “WHATEVER MY WIFE SAYS”
Girl, YOU ARE NOT THE BOSS! And so does your husband.
Every decision should be talked and planned with the both of you.
If he said your cooking is a little salty, NEVER WALKED OUT OF THE TABLE…instead appologize and offer other options. Give him sugar instead. 😂 and impove your cooking by watching cooking videos on youtube.
5. PRAISE HIM FOR HIS ACCOMPLISHMENTS
If he puts the curtain rod straight or your wall decor in perfect angle, appreciate that.. you know how meticulous they are when it comes to putting wall decor. They really mean business when you request them to do that, with all the use of measuring tapes and torpedo level and rulers. An extra appreciation will make him love you more.
6. DON'T DO IT IN FRONT OF YOUR CHILDREN
Avoid correcting your husband in the presence of your children. Incessant correction of your husband infront of your children will make them disrespect him. Remember HE IS THE HEAD OF YOUR HOUSEHOLD.
7. DON'T CORRECT HIM IN PUBLIC
Avoid correcting your husband in public, it does not show you as a virtuous woman and will affect his self-esteem. If you do that in public, you will look like a mad dog without breeding.
8. AVOID CORRECTING IN ANGER.
Stop correcting your husband in anger, shouting, ranting, beating and making trouble. Never push your husband to the point of him to fight back and protect himself from a rascal act of yours. By doing that, you are like adding kerosine on a burning house. Instead, invite him for a walk, hold his hand and talk about the problem.
9. DON'T COMPARE HIM WITH ANY OTHER MAN! NEVER EVER!!!
Thats where jelousy comes from.
In your thought of correcting him, you might have been comparing him with other men.
"Don't you see what your friend is doing?" Can't you learn from our neighbors husband?" "Can’t you be like cheska husband? Or susie’s husband? Or can you be like ADAM IN THE GARDEN OF EDEN? Or like SAMSON or SOLOMON? Girl, your husband is different. When you come to a point of doing these, then REMEMBER THE TIME WHEN HE STILL COURTING YOU and why you choose him and remember how you are head over heels in love with him.
10. NEVER GET BACK TO OLD ISSUES
There is no reasons why you need to get back to old issues… like “remember what you did before?? I will never ever, ever forget that!!! Bla bla bla!!!” Once the issues are done and solve, it should be totally erased in your memory… never try to open a grave… well mannered woman never do that. Stick to the present issue, discuss like adults and move on.
11. DON'T ATTACK HIS MANHOOD
"And you call yourself a MAN ENOUGH?, REAL MAN don't behave like this, you better change before I change you!." This is very wrong, don't do it… LADIES WE DON’t change MEN! if they want to change, they will change because of LOVE. Don’t try to be a sculptor of water. For sure you can’t do that.
12. DON'T ATTACK HIS DIGNITY
GIVE YOUR HUSBAND A BUNCH OF RESPECT!!!
Thats all that matters. If you don’t have enough respect for your husband then you are not worth the respect of your children.
13. DO IT IN TIME OF PEACE
Most WIFES do want to correct in the heat of their anger, at the height of misunderstanding, when temper has already hit the roof. That is not the best time to correct, it will yield little or no result at all. MEN is simple…they have SELECTIVE HEARING. they can only hear in. Low tone of your voice.
14. GIVE A HELPING HAND
Work together for good… change tire together, try your best to help in your most seductive way. That will make their job easy and fast. If he is fixing a broken leg of a table, hand him the things he need. Don’t just stand and watch your husband like you are an egyptian pharaoh mandating a slaves and ready to give a whip when he makes a mistakes.
Husband most of the time are doing a great job, appreciate yours and support him to be better husband and father.
THE REAL IMPOWERED WOMAN IS THE ONE WHO KNOWS HOW TO RESPECT MEN.
IF YOU EXPECT YOUR HUSBAND TO BE A RESPECTABLE KING IN YOUR PALACE, THEN YOU SHOULD FIRST CREATE A PEACEFUL PALACE FOR HIM!
