Why Love Marriages Don't Look Like They Are Working?

I personally don't believe in the institution of marriage, I believe in companionship, plain and simple. No! I am not advocating live-in relationship or abusing traditional marriages, I just want to say that I don't believe in the concept that a relationship can only work in one possible way. I am happily married to my friend, have two beautiful kids, was working till last month and intend to work further. The term happily has not come in my married life due to any of the social norm or obligation we might have followed. It exists purely and solely because we believed and respected our companionship and we ensured that our friendship stays forever. 

Ours was a love marriage against all odds and distances. And there are arranged marriages all around us, which have happened with everyone's consents and choices. So, one fine day over our coffees and worldly discussion my husband asked, "Why do you think people say love marriages don't work?" I smiled, complimented him for the wonderful coffee, thanked him for always believing in my brain and kissed him for always considering me his better half, I proceeded, "I don't think love marriages don't work, I feel they just don't look like they are working in the eyes of society because society has a rigid definition for everything, 'how blah-blah things are supposed to be'. Now you deviate from the definition, you are not right. It's just not working." It was his turn to smile, "okay!what do you think is society's definition of a happy marriage." I laughed, he has a different way of being comical about serious things and I totally love that. "I feel nobody knows what's a happy marriage. They have just defined how happy married couples look like; they don't fight (at all), the wife is always in agreement, the husband is always in awe of her beauty, they attend all social functions happily, they just don't disagree man!" I giggled. He laughed, "so we belong to the 'super unhappy couple category', right?" A pause and I said, "Yup! According to the definition, definitely, we fight so much. I have an opinion about every damn thing. Do we ever agree on anything? Yeah! I gave birth to our amazing brats, but that's different. I don't remember when was the last time you gave me a compliment or gifted me something nice. We are not happy as per them but are super happy in reality. I am not always concerned that your manhood will get hurt if I start talking about ISIS and America, you don't need to be constantly worried to buy me something to make me happy. Plus, I just love our differences and disagreements, these things have actually evolved our thinking and taught us to see things from a different angle too. Don't you think so?" He was looking at me with admiration. "I wouldn't have been happier dear. Cheers to our fights. So we don't look happy but our 'love marriage' is actually a 'happy marriage'."

"Love you Sexy!"...My man is the sexiest possible 'male' thing and yes! we do fight every single day and no! we are not parting ways. We just fall in love with each other more and more, we are just addicted to growing up together. So, I don't know whether I am right or wrong about the 'working concept' of love marriages, all I know is that you really understand what companionship is to a marriage, when you learn to accept your choice without anyone's support.

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