“Cheating nowadays does’nt start in the bedroom.
It starts with a friend request, a like, a heart reaction on social media posts. Until we are chatting and seeing each other secretly.
And we call it micro cheating.
It starts with emotional cheating until it becomes physical, and that's the fact.”
Kids aren’t your husband or life partner; they’ll have their own life and eventually their own partner. As parents, it’s easy to feel as though we are the center of their world, but that’s only true for a small window of time. Our role is to nurture them, guide them, and equip them to face the world, but never to hold them back from spreading their wings.
As they grow, we must remember that the foundation we lay for them is meant to give them strength, not chains. They will form their own dreams, passions, and relationships that will shape the course of their lives. And while we are there to support and love them unconditionally, they are not ours to possess or control. It's important to let them experience life on their terms, even if it means stepping back when we'd prefer to hold on tighter.
One of the hardest lessons in parenting is learning to let go. It’s an act of trust and faith — faith in the upbringing we’ve given them and trust in their ability to navigate their journey. Our children aren’t meant to fill the voids in our lives or compensate for unmet expectations we may have. They are unique souls on their own path, and our job is to walk alongside them for as long as they need us, not to walk in front of them or carry them.
We also must realize that, in a way, children reflect what we show them in our relationships. If we pour everything into them at the expense of nurturing our partnership with our spouse, they may grow up with a distorted view of what love and commitment look like. By maintaining a loving and supportive relationship with our life partner, we demonstrate the value of partnership and the balance between familial bonds and romantic ones.
The relationship we have with our children will evolve over time, shifting from one of dependency to one of mutual respect and admiration. They will move forward, forging their own paths, and one day, they may become the parents in the same role we are in now. The cycle continues, and it's essential to accept that this natural progression is part of life's beauty.
It's vital to prepare ourselves emotionally for that day when their primary attachment will no longer be us, but someone else. It doesn’t mean we lose them; it just means their circle of love expands, and we need to make space for others in their lives. Being able to celebrate their growth, their partnerships, and their future families is a testament to the love and trust we’ve nurtured over the years.
As parents, we may find ourselves adjusting to an emptier house or less frequent calls, but that doesn’t diminish our role in their lives. The bond between parent and child is timeless, and no amount of physical or emotional distance can break that. What we must aim for is a relationship built on mutual respect, where they feel empowered to come to us when they need guidance, not out of obligation or guilt, but out of love and trust.
In our role as life partners, it’s essential to maintain the connection with our spouse. When the children leave, we are left with the person we chose to build a life with, and that relationship deserves as much care and attention as any other. It's crucial not to lose sight of this bond during the busy years of parenting, for it's the love between partners that will carry us through all phases of life, even when the children are no longer in our care.
Parenthood is a journey of giving — we give our love, time, and effort to raise the next generation, but we must also take care of ourselves and our own relationship. As the kids grow and go, we need to remain grounded in our connection with our spouse, ensuring that this relationship stands strong as the central pillar of our family.
The greatest gift we can give our children is the example of a healthy, loving relationship between their parents. This allows them to form their own strong bonds in life, knowing that love, independence, and mutual respect can coexist. Our kids aren’t our life partners, but through our example, they learn what it means to build meaningful, lasting relationships of their own.
16 HABITS A WOMAN SHOULD LEARN AND PRACTICE IN MARRIAGE
Today, our focus is on women. WHAT ARE THE HABITS A WOMAN SHOULD LEARN AND PRACTICE IN MARRIAGE?
1.Play with your husband. Don’t be too serious always. Put romance and playfulness in your daily schedule. Look for ways to laugh together. Say something funny and do something funny.
2.Invite and Take a bath with your husband, especially at night. Enjoy the pleasure of bathing together. Showering with your spouse is sweet, intimate, and a great way to get fully comfortable with each other’s bodies. Tell him to help you scrub your back as you bathe together. Play together in the bathroom.
3 Give your husband a serious shoulder, back, and neck massage in the bathroom, bedroom, and living room as often as possible. You don’t need to be an expert to give your spouse a good message. Ask your spouse to lie on his body.
4 Say “I love you” to your husband often. Tell him and show him you love him so much. It is not only women that are moved by what they hear. Men are moved by what they hear too.
5 Call, Or Send A Romantic Text Message To Your Husband. Call, email, or send a romantic text message to him when you’re apart so he knows you are thinking of him. Call him on phone whenever he goes out just to say, “I love you”, and you can’t wait to see him back home. Do it now!
6.When your husband comes back from the office, meet him as if this is what you have been waiting for all day. Smile at him. Give him a kiss and a hug. Don’t have a sour face. Smile when you see him always and welcome him home with a hug. Let him know you are happy to see him. Help him unbutton his shirt as he undresses after an outing.
7.When last did you buy a gift for your husband? Surprise him with a fun gift of some kind that he’d enjoy having this month. Buy him a new set of un
They loved each other and were ready to take things to the next level.
He had already planned to take her to his people for proper introduction and formalities.
But then, a few days before the time, they had a misunderstanding, and they argued and got ángry at each other.
At the end of the day, they both went back home, still hûrt about the event of the day.
He loved her and wouldn't want to lóse her, but he wasn't ready to call or send a message.
“She will apologize first, after all she was the one that hûrt me." He said to himself.
He kept the phone by the side and kept checking every minute and hour to know if she called, but she didn't. He longed to hear from her, but his egó wouldn't allow him make a move.
She didn't eat the whole day. She was waiting and hoping that he would call, but he didn't.
“I am the lady here and should be the one to be pampered. He should be the one apologizing." She thought to herself.
Days turned into weeks, and weeks into months. They were still waiting for who to be the first to apologize, the first to call and the first to text.
And then, the love began to wane and go down, until there was nothing left but shadows of beautiful memories of what would have been but never did because of some fragments of prîde and egó that weren't dealt with.
Do not allow prîde and egó to make a beautiful relationship to turn sóur.
It doesn't matter who is at fault, when you value a relationship, you do your best to make it work.
This has nothing to do with tóxic relationships. Remember, you don't try to mend a tóxic relationship, you brèak apart.
Life is too short to spend it keeping scores and piling up hûrts.
Do not lóse a diamond while you are busy picking stones.
Your marriage will thrive 🌹
1. Don't make a habit of putting your phone on silent mode or turning it off each time you're with your partner. It makes you look like you are hiding something
2. Save your partner's phone number using a special title like "Hubby", "Love", "Wife", "Sweetie". Or save using a title plus the official name. Using the official name only makes your partner look like just the other contacts on your phone
3. Answer your partner's phone call with loving affectionate words like "Hi love", "Hey honey". How a conversation starts detetmines how it flows. If you start warm, you two will enjoy talking with each other on phone
4. End the talk on a high. Say "I love you", say a joke, a compliment, a warm phrase before you hang up. Hang up with a smile
5. It is OK to chat with friends online. But never chat with another person more than you chat with your partner
6. If you will be busy, notify your partner you will not be able to pick up calls or reply texts promptly. Inform your partner what you will be doing and approximately for how long. This prepares your partner and brings peace because your partner will not feel ignored
7. Flirting on phone is good but only flirt with your partner
8. Tell off people who try to flirt with you, entice you and charm you on phone. Let them know that you are taken
9. Take lots of photos and videos together to capture moments. You will need those pics and videos in future as you look back
10. When you go out on dates, keep the phone away, minimize phone use so that you focus on each other
11. Don't make a habit of walking away from your partner to answer phone calls. Your partner will perceive you are hiding something or having an affair. Love is about perception
12. After the date and you don't live together; man, call her up and check on her, tell her you got home safe; lady, send him a text, thanking him for a wonderful time
13. Unless it's an emergency, when you can't reach your partner and you probably know he/she is at work or doing something; don't keep calling and texting desperately. You will only look like a nag to your partner and that will make your partner detest phone contact with you. Relax, your partner will see your missed call and text
14. When you see a missed call or text from your partner, please call back or reply as soon as you can. Put your partner at ease
15. Save your partner's phone number as an emergency number to be contacted incase something happens to you and your phone is locked
16. Avoid fights and arguments over the phone, they are difficult to manage and leave a bad feeling when you hang up, thus negatively affecting how you two relate. Talk about serious issues that are volatile face to face
17. When your partner offends you or you two aggrevate each other, never refuse to pick up your partner's phone call. That only makes matters worse. Keep the line of communication open so that you work things out. If you can't talk at the moment you are hurting, just pick up the call and say "I can't talk right now" and your partner will understand
18. Inform your partner when and why you need to turn off your phone when you two are apart. Keep your partner from worrying
19. When you two are having fun together, it is good to celebrate your love online but don't post too much about your lovelife. Some things are best kept private. The world doesn't have to know every detail of how you love each other
20. When you two are having problems, don't vent about your partner directly or indirectly on your social media posts
21. Don't let your partner get news about you from social media like your online friends. Tell the news to your partner first, and then post online
22. If your partner tries calling you but your line is engaged, explain who you were talking to. If someones calls you when you're with your partner, say who it was. Transparency and clarity enhances trust
23. Remember it is both your role to communicate. None of you should feel he/she is forcing a conversation or is doing much of the talking. Communication takes two
24. Put away the phone when your partner needs your undivided attention, especially in the bedroom. Don't be intimate, holding your phone, more than you hold your partner
Phone use can affect your relationship/marriage negatively or positively. Be smart as you use your smart phone..
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I'M DONE EXPLAINING MYSELF.
It took me too long to understand that no matter how much I explain my side, some people will twist it to fit their narrative. I used to pour my heart out, desperately hoping they'd see the truth, but l've learned the hard way-if someone truly wanted to understand, they wouldn't make me beg for it.
If you've already decided I'm the villain in your story, fine. I'm not going to keep bending over backwards trying to prove I'm good enough, worthy enough, or innocent enough. The truth is, the more I explain, the more power I give to someone who doesn't want to hear it.
Let them believe what they want.
Let them say it was all my fault.
Let them stay stuck in their version of events.
LET. THEM.
I won't defend myself anymore. Because l've realized something crucial-explaining myself over and over doesn't bring peace. It only exhausts me. It only reinforces their narrative, because if they really cared to understand, they would've listened the first time.
I'm reclaiming my energy. I'm walking away from the endless loop of justification and debate. I deserve connections where I don't have to fight for my truth to be seen.
If my silence makes you uncomfortable, then be uncomfortable.
If my choice not to explain feels like defeat to you, that's on you.
I'm no longer concerned with trying to win a battle I never agreed to fight.
I'm done begging to be understood.
I'm done begging for kindness, respect, and empathy that should've been given freely.
I'm done putting myself on trial in a court that was never fair to begin with.
I'M. DONE.
The only explanation I owe is to myself: that I choose peace over their noise.
I choose to move on without the weight of constantly trying to be heard by people who are committed to misunderstanding me.
Let them think what they want.
LET. THEM. GO.
I will not explain myself again.
Because, honestly, I don't need to.
The way you treat me, changes me. In the delicate dance of human interaction, we often forget the profound impact our actions have on others.
When we treat someone with insensitivity, disregard, and callousness, we leave invisible scars that alter the fabric of their being.
It takes a sincere apology, a heartfelt acknowledgment of the pain caused, to mend the broken threads and weave the connection back together.
Intentions matter a lot, never forget that.
They are the silent architects of our actions, shaping the way we interact with the world.
When intentions are pure and kind, they build bridges of trust and understanding.
But, when they are tainted with selfishness or indifference, they erect walls that divide and isolate.
Don't play with emotions, for they are stored in our so-called memory bank.
Each interaction, each word, each gesture is recorded and remembered.
You may be forgiven, but people never forget how you made them feel.
The echoes of those feelings linger, influencing future interactions and shaping the way we perceive each other.
In the end, it is the way we treat each other that defines our relationships.
Let us strive to treat others with kindness, respect, and empathy, for these are the foundations upon which lasting connections are built.
Let us remember that our actions have the power to change others, and let us choose to change them for the better. ✍️
DEAR HUSBAND,
4 TIMES YOUR WIFE NEEDS YOU MORE
We all know that Women are emotional creatures, they need special attention and to be handled with understanding as peculiar vessels.
But in certain times, they become even more emotional and thus require even more TLC.
Read on
Four times every Wife needs her Husband More.
1) WHEN SHE IS PREGNANT.
Haaaaaa
When a woman is pregnant, is not a small something oh,
she can become really problematic, permit me to put it that way)
From what she wants to do, how she wants to be touched, where she wants to be touched, what she wants to eat (from funny to weird cravings), to how she wants you to scratch her back in the middle of the night,when a woman is pregnant, it's not her fault, even she doesn't know why she acts that way,
Hormones and the changes ongoing in her affect her in ways beyond her control and helping,
In such a time you as her Husband will need to put on more
👉 Love
👉 Attention
👉 Care
👉 Patience
👉 Understanding.
If not, you will find yourself like some men insensitively saying to their pregnant wives "are you the first woman to be pregnant, your own is too much Jor"
Always be around your pregnant Wife physically and emotionally, clear your schedule to be around more,
Carrying the baby for the both of you is already putting stress on her, don't let her carry that burden alone.
It's so sad how some Men will abandon their pregnant wives at home and go drinking and clubbing with friends
Sex and sexual activities are not to be neglected just because she is pregnant.
Still play with her.
Your sister coming over to help is nice, but she still wants your assistance than what five sisters will provide.
2) WHEN SHE IS ON HER MENSES
From Mood swings that can swing in any direction, to breast tenderness, to unnecessary emotional displays, to the very physicality of the physical event she is experiencing (blood loss), to the cries and drama associated with the menstrual cramps,
Some Ladies handle this periods better than others.
As a Man, as your wife goes through that period monthly, she'll need you by her side, physically and otherwise, showing her love and care
Menstruation is not Leprosy.
Stop avoiding her because she is menstruating, that's so 1960.
Some Women even crave sexual contact when menstruating.
3) WHEN SHE IS BEREAVED
A Woman handles the loss of a loved one differently from a Man,
She will cry uncontrollably,
She will weep like a little girl
As a Man you may think she is being a drama queen, you may feel irritated or angry, but remember, she is not you, and you are not her.
let her cry, give her her the space and your permission to grieve,
Don't tell her to stop crying,
Give her a shoulder to cry on,
It will make her feel closer to her,
Be understanding, let her know you feel her pain, show empathy especially when she loses someone close to her.
Don't let personal activities make you absent from her in such times, except it is way way beyond your control.
4) WHEN SHE IS UNDER PRESSURE.
Pressure can come from her work place, family, the Kids, pressure from delay in taking in/getting pregnant, from her emotions
When a woman is under pressure, she can suffer a partial complete emotional melt down except someone is there to guide her, assure her, lend her a shoulder to vent and rely on.
She is Married, let her nor face her battles alone.
When she's under pressure, and she's complaining, crying, falling sick, please assure her, calm her down, take some duties off her, let her sleep and rest more..
Take her out, pamper her.
Help her relax.. And see how she'll bounce back stronger and better for you.
If you allow pressure continuously eat at your wife, she'll age quick, she'll be 28 and looking 42..
She'll become more unloving and the home will become unbearable for everybody..
Help yourself by helping her.
God brought her to be a help meet for you.
Make the Job easy for her.
Your children are learning to love by watching you...
The way you speak to your partner is how they will learn to speak to them.
How you make your partner feel special, is how they will learn to make their partner feel special.
How you talk to about your partner in front of your kids will show them how they should be spoken about by their partner.
Everything matters. But how you act with your partner leaves the biggest impact.
They are learning to love, how to love, by watching you.
It’s not just about leaving; it’s about accepting that things aren’t going to magically get better, that the person you’re clinging to won’t suddenly become who you need them to be!!
The hardest part is letting go of the fantasy – that deep-down hope that one day, everything will click. But love alone isn’t enough to fix a relationship that’s bleeding you dry.
You remember the good times, the potential, the shared dreams. That’s the trap, though – hanging onto what could be instead of seeing what is. If you’re constantly drained, doubting yourself, and holding on just because it’s familiar, it’s time to cut the cord. It’s not a failure to walk away; it’s actually one of the strongest things you can do. You deserve to be with someone who makes you feel whole, not someone who chips away at you bit by bit.
Walking away isn’t weakness; it’s choosing yourself when everything inside you wants to stay out of comfort or fear. Yeah, it’s going to hurt, and yeah, it’ll probably feel like shit for a while. But the freedom and peace that come from getting out of a toxic situation? That’s worth it. At the end of the day, you’ll realize that holding onto something that’s bad for you just isn’t worth the price you’re paying.
“Some men will walk into your life and change everything for you, give you another reason to live. Keep them close.
They’ll challenge you in ways you never thought possible, pushing you to be stronger, braver, and more aligned with your true self. These men see the best in you, even when you can’t. They remind you of your potential and inspire you to reach for it, giving you the courage to break through limitations you once held as truths.
When these men enter your life, they don’t just offer companionship, they bring stability. You feel safe in their presence, knowing they’ll hold you in moments of weakness without judgment. Their touch, their words, and even their silences offer healing. They don’t rush your growth, but patiently walk alongside you as you evolve, supporting you with unwavering faith.
These men don’t shy away from your complexities; they embrace every layer. They honor your story—the battles you’ve fought and the dreams you’ve yet to pursue. They don’t try to change you but rather celebrate who you are at your core, reminding you that you are enough exactly as you are. It’s through this acceptance that you begin to heal deeper parts of yourself.
They will inspire you to dream bigger and love harder. With them, love feels like a safe space to explore your vulnerabilities. You’ll find yourself opening up in ways you haven’t before, trusting that they will hold your heart with care. These men understand the power of emotional intimacy, knowing it’s the foundation for a lasting, meaningful connection.
In their presence, you’ll learn to trust again—not just in others but in yourself. They help restore your faith in love, in goodness, and in the possibility of creating a life filled with joy and connection. Their belief in you allows you to rebuild your own belief in what’s possible.
They are the kind of men who take the time to truly know you, not just your surface-level desires but the dreams you hold in the quiet corners of your heart. They are curious about what lights you up and what keeps you up at night, always striving to understand you on a deeper level.
Their love isn’t just in the grand gestures; it’s in the little things. It’s in the way they remember the details, the way they listen when you speak, the way they show up even when it’s inconvenient for them. Their consistency is their promise, a reminder that they are here for the long haul.
With these men, you’ll feel seen in a way that’s rare. You won’t have to hide parts of yourself or pretend to be someone you’re not. In fact, they’ll encourage you to bring out even more of who you truly are. Their love gives you the freedom to be authentically you.
So when such a man enters your life, cherish him. Understand that what you’ve found is rare and sacred. Keep him close, not because he completes you, but because he complements you in the most profound ways. He’s the kind of man who makes the journey of life feel a little lighter, and the love between you feel like home.”
You're Not Allowed to Miss Me After You Did Everything to Make Sure You Lost Me, a Harsh Reality Check, a Boundary Drawn, a Heart Protected.
You Had Your Chance, You Made Your Choice,
To Push Me Away, to Hear My Voice.
You Ignored My Needs, Disregarded My Feelings,
Left Me No Option but to Distance and Heal.
Now, Don't Come Crawling Back, with Tears in Your Eyes,
Regretting What You Had, and Your Goodbyes.
You Can't Miss What You Didn't Value,
What You Carelessly Discarded, like a Fading Ember.
You're Not Entitled to My Presence,
After You Tore Our Connection, Leaving Only Silence.
You Can't Long for What You Broke,
What You Shattered, Leaving My Heart to Ache.
Your Actions Had Consequences,
Leaving Me No Choice but to Move On.
I Won't Be Your Convenience,
Your Safety Net, Your Emotional Crutch.
You Had the Opportunity to Make It Right,
But You Chose to Let Me Go, into the Night.
Now, Respect My Boundaries,
And Let Me Heal, Without Your Guilt.
You're Not Allowed to Miss Me,
Not After What You Did, Not After What You See.
I'm Moving Forward, Leaving the Past,
Where You'll Remain, with the Memories That Won't Last.
Don't Reach Out, Don't Try to Reconnect,
Your Chance Is Gone, and I Won't Look Back.
I've Found My Strength, My Voice, My Way,
And You're Just a Memory, Fading Away.
This Is Closure, This Is Goodbye,
A Chapter Closed, a New Life to Apply.
You're Not Allowed to Miss Me,
Not After Everything You Did to Lose Me.🥀🌷
Dear Husband,
I want to take a moment to express my sincere apologies for the words I said earlier. I understand that my comments may have hurt you, and I deeply regret that.
Being a mother is an incredibly demanding and exhausting role, one that often leaves me feeling overwhelmed and drained.
While my frustration may have led me to say things I didn't mean, please know that I appreciate and love you more than words can express.
Your support and understanding mean the world to me, and I couldn't navigate this challenging journey of motherhood without you by my side.
I promise to work on communicating my feelings better and to cherish the precious moments we share as a family.
Thank you for being my partner in this incredible adventure, and please forgive me for any hurt my words may have caused.
With all my love
Your Wife ❤️
Dear Men,
if a Woman stops getting jealous, asking questions, texting first, worrying about You, asking about your female friends and start saying
"I'm fine"
" it's cool" "I'm not angry", "No problem"...just know that the last tears has dropped and she does no longer care what happens.
No woman leaves a man because he made a mistake, she left because he made it a habit.
When she put all her best and effort to make the relationship works don't think she's desperate.
She wants to be the best woman for you.
A woman does not make noise when She's leaving You. She made noise before when she wanted to stay, but You did not listen.
Listen bro, once a woman stops showing signs of jealousy.. Her spirit has left you.
Don't take a good woman for granted.
Her simplicity is not a sign of weakness.
Good women are not easy to come by these days.
Value the woman you have.
When Parents die 💔, nothing is the same anymore.
We can no longer be children, we will no longer feel carried away by their hugs, kisses and words of encouragement.
It seems like life is getting harder because their protective love is no longer there.
When parents are no longer with us, we are orphans and that is hard regardlss of age.
Even though you created your family, the face of your parents is ingrained in you for eternity.
All people, even if we are adults, have this living child inside us who wants to be protected all the time by his parents. Turning to their unconditional love whenever necesary, but when they are gone, that option is no longer possible...!!! 😭
When someone loses interest, their actions will speak louder than words. You'll feel it in how they pull away.
They stop making time for you, and every call or text feels like an effort. Excuses become constant, and their presence becomes distant. What once brought you together now irritates them, and they seem annoyed by everything you do.
Emotionally, they begin to shut you out, no longer sharing their thoughts or feelings. You sense something is wrong, but you can’t quite put your finger on it.
Trust yourself. These changes signal that something has shifted. Remember, you deserve love that chooses you fully, every single day.
To my husband,
I see the weight of the world on your shoulders, the late nights and early mornings, the sacrifices you make for our family.
But I want you to know that it doesn't go unnoticed.
You are our rock.
Our provider.
And our hero.
Your tireless efforts to give us a better life fill my heart with gratitude and love.
No matter what challenges come our way, I choose you every day, every hour, and every moment.
You are my forever partner.
My best friend.
And my soulmate.
Thank you for all that you do.
We are so proud to call you ours.
✍️
MY ADVICE TO ALL MARRIED MEN.
1. If you value your health and you want to live long and have a happy home, let your wife always win an argument. Trust me, it's the shortcut I know to peace of mind! Where there is no wood (fuel), the fire goes out!
2. Stop trying to figure out your wife or understand why she does what she does. It's a waste of precious time. Remember that you (Adam) were put to sleep while she (Eve) was being produced? How can you try to understand an equipment that wasn't assembled in your presence?
3. Marriage is about ACCEPTANCE, not tolerance. Make your marriage relationship-driven, not performance-driven. She was NOT created in your image. Stop projecting YOU into her. Show her the need for change through leadership, not coercion.
4. While a man is rational, the woman is emotional. One (the man) processes via his head, the other processes things through her heart (emotions). One thinks things through, the other feels her way through things. Facts drive you. Intuition drives her. What she can't FEEL, she doesn't SEE!
5. When sex becomes a weapon, a duty or an entitlement, it loses its very essence, LOVE-MAKING. It simply becomes another chore like dish-washing which nobody looks forward to doing! Play with her. Flirt with her. Serenade her. Hug. Cuddle. Hold hands. Surprise her. Blow gently into her ears while she is cooking or while you are watching a movie together. Be spontaneous. Being a king-kong overlord in "ze oza room" and puffing and panting like a worn-out locomotive while she wonders what just happened can only lead to frustration. Remember, it is never about the size of the weapon but the fury of the attack! (Decode that!)
6. Go out often. Make regular, unscheduled date nights. Take a bath together. Make room for movie nights together either at home or at the cinema.
7. Remember that ONLY THE TWO OF YOU started the journey together and when the children have jumped the nest, only the two of you will remain. So, keep the bond ALL THE WAY and never drop the ball
8. Impregnate her with VISION. Allow her to dream too. Every woman loves a man working towards a future in which she can feature. Remember, woman simply means "womb man". She always wants something to incubate and nourish. You give her a seed, she incubates it and turns it to a baby for you
9. She is your wife, a companion and confidant, not a washing machine, cook or slave. You can't wear her out with chores all day and expect to 'ride' a functional "bicycle" all night! Impossicant! Partners help partners by giving a helping hand where needed, even without being told.
10. Love is not 50/50. It is 100%. God didn't say to love your wife when she is submissive. It simply says love her as Christ loved the church and gave himself for her.
11. Be PRESENT. Don't be at home married to your computer or football game. Listen when she wants to talk. Even when you don't know what to contribute to the discourse, you will soon discover that all she wanted was for you to listen. Your opinion may not even count!
12. If both of you are born again children of God, you are actually SIBLINGS!!! You have the same Father and the same father-in-law, GOD!!! Ever thought of that?
Treat your wife with the dignity you would accord your blood sister. If you are fond of disgracing your wife in public and calling her all sorts of unprintable names, remember, it wasn't God who named EVE.
He created a woman, Adam gave her a name. Whatever you call your wife, that is what she will reflect to you. If you call your wife a Jezebel, we need to check if your middle name isn't Ahab! Call her your Queen and she will make you her crown! It takes one to find one! When you see the glory of your Father in her, you will be a great son-in-law too! A wife you don't honor cannot bring honor to you too.
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To be intimate with someone isn’t about being physical with someone.
Intimacy doesn’t come from a place of physicality.
It’s about trusting someone because they make you feel safe.
It’s about sharing your deepest fears, insecurities, and vulnerabilities with someone who embraces who you are without judgement.
Someone who looks after your heart as though it’s a delicate flower.
It’s about being able to be open about your inner thoughts, your pain, your past, and your trauma to another person, knowing that they will listen with empathy and understanding.
It’s when you can reveal the broken pieces of your soul, and they respond with kindness, warmth, and love.
It’s a place where you can be your true authentic self without fear of judgement, abandonment, or rejection, because they make you feel safe…
It's a special person who will stand beside you through all of life’s highs and lows reminding you that you are never alone in this beautiful but sometimes difficult journey we call life.
Intimacy is really about feeling safe…
Because true intimacy comes from the heart and soul…
During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?"
The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind, replied the author.
Here's the answer.
Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you
fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls,
want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.
People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet. "Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.
Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you
may begin to desire that experience with someone
else. This is when relationships breakdown.
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.
People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.
Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.
I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later.
Because (listen carefully to this):
The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the Person you found.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know
WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.
Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.
Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.
Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO! ♥
To my old self,
I'm sorry for allowing people to hurt you so many times. I'm sorry for all the wrong decisions that you've made because you were not wise enough before. I hope you'll learn to forgive yourself someday. I hope you'll heal from all your trauma. And I hope you've learned from all the mistakes that you've made in your past.
Someday, I hope you'll learn to love yourself after all the heartbreaks that you've been through. I know sometimes it's hard to forget the painful things that happened to you, but it takes time to heal. I hope one day you'll learn to find your worth again. You were too hard on yourself and you forgot that you are worth it too. One day, I hope you find the happiness that you always deserve.
I want you to know that your past mistakes and traumas doesn't define who you are. You are more than your wounds and scars. You are more than the number of your heartbreaks. And I hope you always remember that I am so proud of you for being brave enough to stay alive. You are loved, and you are always enough. ♥️
So many men see a Lady, like her, love and want to marry her without trying to find out what type of Lady she is and if she's the type they want to go down the high with. Beauty doesn't make a Lady, personality does and Ladies have so amazing personalities if only you can get to understand your Lady and she's the perfect match for your person, not a perfect Lady. There is no perfect human being.
There are different types of Ladies out there. We encounter them every day but pay little or no attention to their persons because we get carried away with their beauty, shapes, accents and worth. Sir, stop being distracted, stay focused.
In this article, I'm going to share with us, the types of women we encounter now and then so that we can have a better understanding of whom we are dealing with at the time.
Please, note that the level of religion your Lady operates in doesn't change or affect her personality. Men change spiritually, women don't because they are spiritually made and can operate simultaneously both spiritually and physically unlike men who are physically made.
1. FAMILY LADY
This kind of woman is very emotional. She is very attached to every member of her family. You will come to identify her if she keeps on telling you about her cousins or relatives people you never met; on your date nights. They take a firm stand on political and equality issues. Pick your discussion topics very wisely.
2. MOMMY LADY
You will not recognize her instantly. This kind of woman possesses motherly instincts that come out during the delicate or sensitive stages of your life. They are genuinely caring in nature. If you miss texting or calling her after reaching home, expect a minimum of Ten missed calls waiting for you. If you get a minor paper cut, she’ll appear with substantial first aid. A sneeze can end up with a thermometer in your mouth and at least three days of rest!
3. HISTLER
This kind of woman is very hard-working by nature. Her priority will always be her dreams. Don’t misjudge/doubt or condemn her if she cancels the date for any assignment/work. You may raise your expectations, but in reality, be mentally prepared to support her career decisions. You may wish to help her in any way possible, but this kind of woman prefers playing their game independently.
4. GOSSIP LADY
This type of lady is Google in human skin. They usually have a record of everyone and everything including you. You may find it difficult at times when you want to have some deep, meaningful conversation, but on days when you want something to cheer up your mood, her enthusiastic voice would be enough.
5. THE LISTENER
This is the favourite type for the majority of men in the world. She’ll always be there to listen to you without any judgment or interruption. She is the silent observer kind. These kinds of women are introverts or ambiverts. She takes her own time to open up to you. Once found, she’ll be your first go-to person whenever you are feeling low and just need someone to listen to you.
6. SUPER LADY
These women are an upgraded version of the hustler types. They do work hard and no matter what they are going through physically, emotionally, mentally or financially they will never let you know. They are emotionally convincing. They hardly lose their calm during the emergency. They are experts in multi-tasking and hiding their emotions. If you have found someone of this kind, then you need to be very careful about your actions because no matter how strong they are, they also need someone to look after them.
7. MS. PERFECTIONIST
A woman with all positive habits. Disciplined life, clean home, hygienic environment, healthy eating habits and, focused on goals. You are making the wrong choice if you are exactly opposite to her. Compatibility is going to be a significant issue. But if you are looking to improve your current lifestyle, then this kind of woman is your best choice.
8. PANDA LADY
She is a cute, lazy, sloth bear who can be your great partner in crime to hang out with. Your weekends will never be the same after you have found her. Get ready for disappeared hoodies, unlimited pizza deliveries, and binge-watching during the weekends. If you are too lucky, then she will also be your video game and watching a football match partner.
9. BOSS LADY
The dominating ones. The Ms. Always Right. If you are in a relationship with her, be ready to change your schedules, according to her. And of course! Never dare to end up with any kind of disagreement with her. However, if you are someone who has lost track in life, nobody is better than her to help you get back to find yourself. She may appear like the most aggressive one but stick to her till the end, and you may discover amazing facts about her that nobody else knows.
10. DRAMA QUEEN
This type of lady is the one who will exaggerate the given situation. Be sure that you won’t be allowed to spend much of your time with friends or relatives. Forget about talking to other girls. Most of your time is spent in shopping malls or wiping her tears. No matter how much possessive she is for you, this action will make you adore her even more.
11. PARTY LADY
This is the type of woman who can make you feel insecure if your personality is not understanding types, then she is the one. She spends most of her weekends at the disco parties. She’s the kind who will make time for you according to her mood. Be prepared for cancelled date nights. You can try to get involved in her inner circle of friends, which may take time, and you may not feel comfortable too. Anyways, stay safe.
12. FAIRYTALE LADY
This is a Daydreamer Queen. For her, logical thinking is of the least priority. She’s the emotional kind who breaks down quickly. If she says Unicorns exist, just say yes. She still has a touch of innocence in her nature. Be there to take care of her, and she’ll treat you the same.
13. DIFFICULT LADY
These women are ambitious and bold, adventurous and emotional, brainy and defiant, incorrigible and outlandish, determined and badass. They are about pleasing themselves as much as those around them. They don't say yes simply because it is expected of them.
14. STRONG MINDED LADY
This is a courageous Lady, one who doesn't depend on anyone else. She knows who she is. She build herself and builds others up. She doesn't see showing emotion as a weakness. She follows her intuition and doesn't overthink everything. She is truly happy and knows what it takes to make her own happiness.
15. ELEGANT LADY
This lady displays self-respect, class, appreciation, and etiquette. She does not allow her mood to affect her manners. She is wise to know that being an elegant lady doesn’t mean that one should be snobby or stuck up, but that one should have dignity, consideration, and moderation in one's daily actions.
No matter which kind of woman you may come across, just respect the way they are, and you will get the same treatment. And make sure, whoever you end up with, you won’t force her to change her current self.
Changing a Lady is indirectly creating a monster. You will not like the result. Your best bet is to leave her to herself. Accept her for who she is and find a means to manage her person. That is the only way you can have the best of her.
A NOTE ON WALKING AWAY.
I think one of the hardest things you can ever do is walk away from someone you love, knowing your path together only goes this far.
Like a kid digging their heels in refusing to budge, you'll want to stay put. To try and squeeze yourself into the mould you know you don't fit in.
Settle for "enough" when you know your heart deserves more.
Choose this version of yourself over the one you are destined to become. And just know, no matter how much it hurts to leave someone you love, doing so is your promise that you will never leave yourself. Not choosing them, is choosing you.🥀🌷
I'M NOT BLIND, I NOTICE EVERYTHING.
...when people treat me differently.
...when others tell lies thinking I'd be too dumb to realize.
...when I'm not part of the plan.
...when some people act weird towards me.
...when I'm just an option.
...when I'm being used for someone else's gain.
...when kindness has another meaning.
...when people connive.
I notice everything.
So don't mistake my silence for naivety.
I'm too keen for that.
I'M NOT BLIND, I NOTICE EVERYTHING.
💕
✍️
“Dear ME,
I am sorry. I’m sorry that you tried so desperately to fix others when your own hands were shaking. ❤️🩹
I’m sorry that I didn’t give you enough time to heal, that I let you seal the wounds of everyone else whilst your own were bleeding. ❤️🩹
I’m sorry that there were days when smiling hurt but you forced yourself to laugh so that no one had to worry about you. ❤️🩹
I’m sorry that you gave all of your time and effort to people that didn’t give the same amount back. ❤️🩹
I’m sorry that there were nights when you cried yourself to sleep and no one bothered to understand why.❤️🩹
And I am so sorry that I did not love you Like you deserved to be loved.”🥀
Divorce is not a failure.
Sometimes it's a courageous decision to reclaim your worth, find your voice, and choose your path that aligns with your authentic self. This empowering perspective sheds light on the transformative power of divorce.
Ending a marriage takes immense courage, especially when societal expectations and personal fears urge you to stay in a unhappy and unfulfilling relationship. However, divorce offers a chance to:
- Break free from toxic dynamics and emotional suffocation
- Rediscover your identity, interests, and passions
- Develop a stronger sense of self and personal growth
- Cultivate healthier boundaries and relationships
- Embrace a new chapter of life, filled with promise and possibility
Divorce is not a defeat, but a victory over the fear of change and the courage to pursue happiness. It's a declaration of self-love, a celebration of personal evolution, and a testament to the human spirit's capacity for resilience and growth.
Remember, your worth is not defined by your relationship status. You are worthy of love, happiness, and fulfilment, and divorce can be a powerful step towards reclaiming your true self. Embrace this new beginning and rise stronger, wiser, and more radiant than ever.
Let them keep what they took from you!
If you gave them love and they walked away, let them keep it. If you've given them time and they've drifted away, let them keep the memories.
If you gave them days, months, years of your life, let them keep all the love you gave them during all that time.
Don't fight for it, don't say, "You owe it to me!"
Why do you want it back for?
For what if you had the ability
to reproduce more of it?
Let him keep it.
The value of your love does not depend on what others do with that love. Let them keep what they took from you - they probably needed someone, they probably needed someone, believe me, there's probably light on their path...
Even when that person has only given you pain, stay alone with love, feeling and giving is the biggest footprint we can leave.
PS: message of this post should be different depending on who is reading this…after you think about , you can find your truth and your point… your view applies in your situation and your life , don’t matter of polarity, gender or religion 🫶
1. PICNIC DATE
There is something special and free about the outdoors. Pack up some food and drinks and a leso, find a spot and have fun.
2. WALK DATE
Make time to just take a walk as you bond. Walk for long as you hold hands, laugh, bump shoulder to shoulder. You need no money for this.
3. ELEGANT DATE
Go all out. Gentleman, ask her out to an expensive, classy venue. Give her a chance to dress up. She will feel special, smiling as you romance her; she wearing her fashionable dress.
4. DANCE DATE
Find a place where good music is played or dance is taught and go there as a couple. Salsa, lingala, afro, twist, benga; go to a place where you will sweat, groove and get down.
5. IMPROMPTU DATE
Dates don't have to be pre-planned. Be spontenous sometimes, drop everything and go somewhere as a couple for some quality time.
6. MOVIE DATE
Go to the cinema. Movies bring out emotions.
7. DOUBLE DATE
Go out on a date with another couple close to you. This will give you a chance to celebrate love and talk couple to couple. Your love will grow stronger.
8. COMPASSION DATE
There are many people in society to bless. You and your partner, find a children's home, an elderly home, a hospital or someone in need and together go spend time with them. God will bless your love.
9. CANDLE-LIGHT DINNER DATE
There is something romantic about looking into each other's eyes in dim candle light. Make it special. Romance is sweet.
10. SPECIAL MOMENT DATE
This is when you celebrate big as a couple a special moment like Birthday, Anniversary, Graduation or Promotion. Never forget these moments.
11. MAKE-UP DATE
If things between you two haven't been going well. Make effort to save your love by planning a good date. A date provides a good setting to allow you two to talk and get back to deep love.
12. LUNCH DATE
Since you work at different jobs, sometimes meet up and have a couple's lunch for an hour or so.
13. OLD LOVE DATE
Dates are not for young love only. Sadly, as lovers stay in a relationship/marriage, the dates become fewer as they go through the motions. No matter how long you've been together, step outside your everyday responsibilities and go for a date to rekindle and sustain the excitement.
14. SPORTS DATE
Is your favorite football club, rugby team, basketball team, golfer playing? Is it the safari rally, athletics? Go out for dates as a couple where you can scream, cheer and go wild. You two will connect more.
15. FRIENDS DATE
Have a barbeque, hook up with friends, throw a party. Organize something as a couple where your love will be celebrated in the presence of close friends.
16. TRAVEL DATE
Pack your bags and travel. Break the monotony and as a couple drive, fly, sail to a place you've never been. Experience new attractions together. Your love will never be boring this way.
16. STAY AT HOME DATE
Lock yourself in the house. Not to work or do chores. But to switch off everything including phones and concentrate on each other. Cook together, eat together, bath together, make memories for two.
1. Wear something easy to remove, comfortable and sexy. Make the work of your partner easy to peel off your clothes to reveal the naked you. Yummy lingerie, loose boxer. Sleep naked for best results
2. Brush your teeth to encourage kissing
3. Don't carry work to bed
4. Minimize the use of phones or laptops. Your partner needs attention, the bedroom is sacred
5. Move the baby to a separate room (if your finances allow you to and you have a home of more than one bedroom) when the baby is of age. The child might have been conceived in the bedroom but is not meant to live in your bedroom that is an exclusive island for two
6. Gentleman have that one spot besides her lips you kiss each night; whether it's her forehead, fingers, shoulders, back or butt. Lady, stroke him with your gentle touch, your fingers speaking love
7. Make a habit of praising each other's body, it makes you both comfortable and relax. Talk those bedroom matters
8. Pray together before you sleep, and when you wake up
9. Apologize and forgive if any wrong was done during the day. Don't sleep with a grudge or anger
10. Read your partner's body language. If you or your partner desires to make love, then rise to the occasion or wet up to the occasion; whether night or morning glory
11. Have pillow talks, open your heart and lips and talk intimate stuff. Say how you feel; are you troubled, grateful, broken?
12. Cuddle up when you feel sleep is fast approaching, drown into sleep as your bodies intertwine
13. Tell each other how much you mean to each other. Your partner never gets enough of your affirmation
14. Incase one of you farts, laugh about it (some farts are unstoppable)
15. Cover your partner incase you wake up in the middle of the night and find your partner outside the duvet/ blanket
16. Kiss your partner when you come back from peeing in the middle of the night
17. Hold your partner close and pray when your partner wakes up terrified by a nightmare
18. Give a goodnight and goodmorning kiss
19. Spend some few minutes of love in bed even when the alarm wakes you up
20. Carry the love you have for each other even when you leave the bed
Love you all and remains bless.
"If milk spoils, it turns into yogurt. Yogurt is more valuable than milk. If it goes even further, it becomes cheese. Cheese is more valuable than both yogurt and milk.
Similarly, when grape juice sours, it turns into wine, which is more expensive than grape juice.
You are not bad because you’ve made mistakes. Mistakes are the experiences that make you more valuable as a person.
Christopher Columbus made a navigation error that led him to discover America. Alexander Fleming's mistake led him to invent penicillin.
Don’t let mistakes bring you down. Practice doesn’t make perfection. The mistakes we learn from make perfection!"
"Being faithful in a relationship isn't just about staying out of
someone else's bed.
It's way deeper than that.
It's the texts you don't send, the flirty conversations you don't entertain, and the decisions you make when no one's watching. Being faithful isn't just about avoiding the act of cheating. It's about consciously removing yourself from any situation that could
potentially blur the lines. It's about not seeking validation or attention from anyone outside the relationship. It's about not having anything on your phone that you wouldn't want your partner to see.
Being truly faithful is not just about physical monogamy.
It's about emotional integrity."
1. CORRECT HIM
Men, love it when the woman tells him when he wrongs. The problem is many women don't know how to correct. Correct him with love, "Honey, don't you think it would have been better if..."; don't scold him like he is a little boy. Approach and tone is key. Don't attack
2. CHALLENGE HIM
Do greater things on your own, inspire him, expose him to greatness, make progress in your life that he feels he needs to pull up his socks. Don't just sit lazy. A man wants a woman who is hungry for her own personal growth. Challenging him doesn't mean looking down on him or asking why can't he be like other men?
3. NEED HIM
Men love feeling needed. Lovingly ask him for help, ask him for advice, "My love, what do you think I should do?". Involve him in your life and when he does help, thank him
4. PRAY FOR HIM
No matter the level of a man's spirituality, prayer is respected and considered sacred. Pray for him, let him hear you pray for him
5. PRAISE HIM
The kind of compliments men love are, "You are such a good man", "You make a great dad", "Your mind is incredible", "You have a sexy body", "I love how you touch me", "My honey, I am proud of you". Praise him in private and in public. Don't be that woman who is quick to point out his flaws but rarely highlighs what he does right
6. SEXUALLY MAKE ADVANCES
Many women think sex is to be left to the man, so they wait for the man to make advances. They become passive and shy during sex. Lady, your husband will love it sometimes if you are sexually aggressive, ask for his body, reach for his penis. Show him that you know he belongs to you. Make sex an adventure
7. SHOW INTEREST IN HIM
Ask him how his day is, his dreams, if he is OK. Most women want the man to show interest but they don't show interest back
8. TRUST HIM, DON'T MICROMANAGE HIM
Don't be overly posssessive, demanding him to spend every second with you. Snooping his phone and doubting him when you find nothing, being suspicious of him, chocking his social life, . Be mature, if you push him away, he will keep things friom you then things will get ugly. Most men keep things from their women, not because they are doing something wrong but because their women read too much into everything and pick up fights. This is dangerous. You are his Queen, wear your crown with confidence
9. COMPLAIN LESS
So many women don't even know they complain, they think they are simply expressing their right to speak and get things done properly. But men dislike a complaining woman, if he doesn't do things as you like, if he is not at your level; don't attack and nag. Just simply request him to do things a better way, but as you do so, appreciate the much he has done so far
10. GIVE HIM PEACE
This is what we all want when with a person. Peace. Peace at home. No fights, no frustrations, no stress. If your man is spending less time with you, perhaps you're not giving him peace. Men avoid complicated and draining environments. Lady, you complaining every day to him that he doesn't spend much time with you makes things worse. You think you are putting your point across but he feels pushed away. Attract him to you by giving him peace. Some men stay out there, not looking for a woman, but looking for peace
11. LOOK GOOD
Dress up, look sexy. Don't look good only when you are outside the home, look good also when it's just you two
12. TREAT HIM
Cater to him, cook for him, buy him gifts, treat him like a king, straighten his tie. These simple things mean alot to him, even if not every day, often
13. HAVE GOOD CONVERSATIONS
Men get attracted to good converations. They want laughter, depth, intelligent conversations. They want to be listened to, to be wowed by a woman's mind. A woman who talks lovey dovey stuff but also about business, investments, social issues, a great vision; that woman is a keeper
14. EAT WITH HIM
Men love a good meal. Make it a habit to eat with him. Food brings people together
15. BE ADMIRABLE
Succeed in your personal life, do great things outside your marriage. Shine as a woman. Make him proud to say "That is my wife". Even the Proverbs 31 husband calls his wife "Blessed"
16. BE FRIENDLY TO HIS FRIENDS
Don't fight his friends. Find out who his friends are, get to have laughs and talks with them. Support his social life, be good to his family and siblings. If you have an issue with one of them, bring it to his attention without starting a war. Allow to also know your friends. When you both do this, it makes both of you secure
17. MAKE AN EFFORT TO UNDERSTAND WHAT HE LIKES
Find out what he likes and spend time with him once in a while doing that thing. If he loves rugby, watch matches with him sometimes; if he wins an award, go cheer him as he receives it; be his topmost fan in everything.
𝐇𝐎𝐖 𝐓𝐎 𝐌𝐀𝐊𝐄 𝐘𝐎𝐔𝐑 𝐇𝐔𝐒𝐁𝐀𝐍𝐃 𝐇𝐀𝐏𝐏𝐘:
1. Feed him
2. Sleep with him
3. Leave him in peace
4. Don't check his phone (Msgs)
5. Don't bother him with his movements
6. Clean the house
7. Wash his clothes
8. Always pray for him.
So what's so hard about that?
𝐇𝐎𝐖 𝐓𝐎 𝐌𝐀𝐊𝐄 𝐘𝐎𝐔𝐑 𝐖𝐈𝐅𝐄 𝐇𝐀𝐏𝐏𝐘:
It's really not too difficult but... To make a wife happy, a husband only needs to be:
1. a friend
2. a companion
3. a lover
4. a brother
5. a father
6. a master
7. a chef
8. an electrician
9. a plumber
10. a mechanic
11. a carpenter
12. a decorator
13. a stylist
14. a sexologist
15. a gynecologist
16. a psychologist
17. a pest exterminator
18. a psychiatrist
19. a healer/prayer
20. a good listener
21. an organizer
22. a good father
23. very clean
24. sympathetic
25. athletic
26. warm
27. attentive
28. gallant
29. intelligent
30. funny
31. creative
32. tender
33. strong
34. understanding
35. tolerant
36. prudent
37. ambitious
38. capable
39. courageous
40. determined
41. true
42. dependable
43. passionate
𝐖𝐈𝐓𝐇𝐎𝐔𝐓 𝐅𝐎𝐑𝐆𝐄𝐓𝐓𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐓𝐎:
44. give her compliments regularly
45. go shopping with her
46. be honest
47. not stress her out
48. not look at other girls
𝐀𝐍𝐃 𝐀𝐓 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐒𝐀𝐌𝐄 𝐓𝐈𝐌𝐄, 𝐘𝐎𝐔 𝐌𝐔𝐒𝐓 𝐀𝐋𝐒𝐎:
49. give her lots of attention
50. give her lots of time, especially time for herself
51. give her lots of space, allow to visit her family members and your relatives.
𝐁𝐔𝐓 𝐌𝐎𝐒𝐓 𝐎𝐅 𝐀𝐋𝐋 𝐈𝐓 𝐈𝐒 𝐕𝐄𝐑𝐘 𝐈𝐌𝐏𝐎𝐑𝐓𝐀𝐍𝐓:
52. To learn not to ask for change when u give money for shopping🤣🤣. Whatever u give out becomes rightly hers no matter how big the note is.
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𝐓𝐎 𝐌𝐀𝐊𝐄 𝐀 𝐖𝐎𝐌𝐀𝐍 𝐇𝐀𝐏𝐏𝐘 𝐈𝐒 𝐀 𝐒𝐄𝐑𝐈𝐎𝐔𝐒 𝐁𝐔𝐒𝐈𝐍𝐄𝐒𝐒 😄😀😃😜🌹 Wishing you all a 𝐇𝐀𝐏𝐏𝐘 𝐅𝐀𝐌𝐈𝐋𝐘.
1. When a woman is angry, she doesn't mean over half of what she says. If possible always hug her to calm her down.
2. The most difficult time for a woman is when she is away from the man she truly loves. She can get distressed.
3. It takes time for a woman to trust a man, its hard to change her mind when she does, but if you mess-up, you might just forget it.
4. A woman is such a school you will never graduate from.
5. Your wedding certificate with her is not a " Driving license", its just a "Learners permit". Continue wooing her.
6. She can be very bitter now, and a very sweet angel later on, it all lies in your approach. Yes treat her right always.
7. A woman hardly forget things, she remembers hurts more, avoid making her hurt. Avoid negative words and affirm her always.
8. A woman can be highly secretive. Most times when they prove hard to men, they go to their closet and cry to friends. Make your woman your best friend.
9. All women Love to be begged. Men often miss out on this. Yes please handle them like babies sometime its all they want.
10. All women have a unique character like salt, their presence might not be noticed but their absence makes all things tasteless.
11. If she loves you she can do everything you ask of her as far as it makes you happy, so never force her to love you.
12. If you don't take care of her, she will find someone who will. They are always there only that she chose you.
13. If a woman truly loves you, even to ask money from you she will be shy, but as a gentleman don't wait to be asked and most especially if she loves you she can never leave you to spend unnecessarily. That's what makes them special
If you have a good woman in your life, don't take her for granted. They are expensive jewelry. Don't hurt them cos there are many out there that wish to have someone like her
In every man success there must be a good honest Woman behind.
The day you manage to stay calm in front of whoever provokes you,
when your silence is the right answer, the day you manage to stay calm in the face of the storm.
In the face of noise and foolish words, then you will have achieved the greatest of your successes, dominate yourself.
It is no longer about winning or losing, being better or worse, having or not having the coveted reason,
it is not even about triumphing over others, it is about the fact that,
finally, you have reached the top of a very high mountain, and it is to conquer you, prioritize yourself and put your mental health first,
your emotional intelligence.
Observe and look around you, don't judge anymore, just observe the unhappiness, the lack of self-esteem, the burdens and pains that others must carry to live pending other people's lives, to be aware of the lives of others.
The more you love yourself, the less you will care about the projection in someone else's eye,
the more you love yourself you will focus on improving yourself and only you.🥀🌷
Your wife is already tired...
Have you ever wondered how your wife feels?
Believe it or not, your wife is the one who carries the most things on her shoulders and still has to go on every single day.
If your wife tells you that she can't do it anymore — don't judge her, or think that she wants to leave you, she just feels pain in her heart that she can't get out because she has to deal with other people's problems and solve them and usually forgets about her.
Mom gets tired too, that's why you have to share household chores washing dishes, sweeping or mopping won't make you less of a man... she also cries, she also feels bad... and no one asks her how she feels.
First she is a mother... a psychologist... a doctor... a cook... a housewife... a wife... a stylist... and a thousand other things, but the most important thing is that it is YOUR SUPPORT AS A PARTNER...
If you have problems, she will support you and she will tell you that everything will be fine, if there is no money, she will find a way but she will never leave you alone even when you see her distracted, distant, thoughtful, she will always say that she has nothing, but she HAS EVERYTHING...
FOR ALL THE FIGHTING WOMEN AND WIVES OUT THERE😘
When a woman is fed up, it shows.
Long text messages turn into short sentences. Nagging turns into statements. No more attitudes about small things, no more begging for attention, saying "I love you" out of the blue stops, no more questions.
Everything she used to do slows down, then stops completely, because she no longer cares. Women care too early and men care too late.
Once you lose the head, the body follows!
When you marry a narcissistic man, you never get a chance to be a wife; instead, you take on the role of a mother because these adults behave like man-children.
They go to work Monday through Friday and then spend their weekends sitting in front of a laptop, downloading music, playing video games, or making messes for you to clean up.
You find yourself single and a father simultaneously, taking on the burden of responsibilities without the support of a partner.
Narcissists don't marry for love or partnership; they marry because they want a maid, cook, secretary, banker, and a nanny.
They crave control, not connection. Their selfish desires consume them, leaving you to run the household, raise the children, and satisfy their every whim.
Your dreams of a loving and equal relationship are shattered, replaced by the harsh reality of servitude.
As days turn into weeks, and weeks into years, you become a shadow of your old self.
Your identity is erased, replaced by the exhausting duties of handling a narcissist's life.
You are obliged to sacrifice your own desires, interests and friendships to accommodate their demands.
Emotional childbirth is suffocating, leaving you drained, resentful, and wondering how you ended up in this nightmare.
You're not alone in this fight.
Many women have fallen prey to the charming facade of a narcissist, only to find themselves trapped in a loveless and ungrateful role.
Remember, you deserve better.
You deserve a partner who loves, supports, and respects you.
Technology can have both positive and negative impacts on relationships and homes. Here are some ways technology can negatively affect relationships:
1. Social media addiction: Excessive social media use can lead to decreased face-to-face interaction and deepened feelings of loneliness.
2. Cyber infidelity: Online flirtations or affairs can damage trust and intimacy.
3. Decreased communication: Over-reliance on digital communication can lead to misunderstandings and decreased emotional intelligence.
4. Increased distractions: Constant notifications and digital stimulation can reduce quality time spent together.
5. Unrealistic expectations: Social media often presents unrealistic relationship standards, leading to disappointment and dissatisfaction.
6. Privacy issues: Sharing personal information online can compromise relationship privacy and trust.
7. Escapism: Technology can serve as an unhealthy escape from relationship issues rather than addressing them directly.
8. Lack of boundaries: Constant connectivity can blur personal boundaries, leading to burnout and resentment.
9. Comparison and envy: Social media comparisons can foster envy and decreased contentment in one's own relationship.
10. Addiction: Technology addiction can lead to neglect of relationship responsibilities and emotional needs.
It's essential to maintain a balance between technology use and nurturing your relationships. Set boundaries, prioritize face-to-face interaction, and address issues directly to promote healthy relationships.
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I don't know who needs to hear this but remove sex from the relationship of nowadays and you will discover that some obscenely huge percentage of ladies have nothing to offer in relationships, totally nothing...
Remove money from a relationship and you will discover that majority of ladies won't see a reason to be in a relationship with a man, they want a man to take care of them, but they add no value to the man's life other than sex and nagging.
Somebody who can't challenge you positively, somebody who thinks being female is like being disabled, somebody who is expecting heaven from you but offers almost nothing in your life! Somebody who thinks her money is meant for her and yours at her disposal.
Somebody who can't even send you airtime, let alone lunch! Somebody who can't lend you money when you are in economic crisis!
Somebody who has parasitic thinking and reasoning.
If you hate financially broke men then don’t be a financially broke woman. You cannot hate what you are, one sided expectations can destroy you. If you want a man with a car you must show us exactly where you have parked yours.
Please men Go for the best. Somebody who is slaying with senses and reasoning! Not somebody who has only hips, boobs and birth certificate.
Go for somebody who is ready to push and provoke you to achieve your goals, not a thief who's after your money!
I know most of ladies will not like this but Iet's call a spade, a spade; not a big spoon.
If someone is TEXTING your PARTNER, it's because your PARTNER is WELCOMING it. It is a reflection of how they are carrying on behind your back. The ENEMY of a WOMAN isn't a WOMAN rather the IRRESPONSIBLE man.
Never FIGHT another woman over a MAN. Truth is no WOMAN can DATE your MAN, if your MAN didn't allow it.
If another WOMAN STEALS your MAN, there's no better revenge than letting her keep him. REAL and GENUINE MEN can't be STOLEN. God just saved you from a COMMUNITY PROPERTY and a MAN OF THE PEOPLE.
RELATIONSHIP RULES
EVERY MARRIED COUPLE MUST PRACTICE
Whether you are just entering a relationship or have been in one for some time, rules help you take it to the next level. Follow the below rules and see the magic work:
1. LOVE WITH NO CONDITION
Love cannot have conditions. It becomes all too materialistic when “only ifs” seep into your relationship.
You cannot have conditions like you can only love if your partner earns more than you, if he buys you gifts every month, if she looks beautiful always.
Love your partner as your parents love you unconditional.
2. YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS YOUR PRIORITY
Make your relationship your topmost priority. Invest time and effort in your relationship and constantly strive to make it better.
3. KEEP YOUR COMMUNICATION CHANNEL ALWAYS OPEN
Without communication, you can drift apart in your relationship. Let your communication be open and honest. No matter how busy or tired you are, don’t let that block your communication.
4. HUG AS OFTEN AS YOU CAN
Include it in your daily routine and make your hugs last longer. Hugging increases the oxytocin (the love hormone) levels and reduces cortisol ( the stress hormone)
5. HAVE SEX GENEROUSLY
Don’t schedule sex, let it be impromptu. That’s when it becomes exciting and the intimacy between you grows. Don’t let any excuses come in your way when it comes to having sex.
6. SPEND QUALITY TIME TOGETHER
You need not necessarily go on a date night. You may also have a romantic dinner at home, just sit in the garden or balcony and rewind your memories or watch your favorite TV program together. The idea is to take a break from your busy schedules to stay close.
7. BE HONEST AND TRUTHFUL TO BUILD TRUST
Trust develop on honesty and truthfulness. Occasional minor and harmless lies are permitted to keep your partner happy but cheating and lack of fidelity have no place in a relationship.
Learn your partner’s love language. Whether it is spending quality time together, physical intimacy, or words of affirmation, understanding what they
enjoy the most will strengthen your bond.
8. CRITICIZE BUT DON'T HURT
If you want to criticize your partner to make them better, then the criticism should be constructive and positive. Help your partner understand the intention behind the criticism.
9. STAND BY EACH OTHER
We hope tough times do not touch your lives, but it’s during these times you have to stand by your partner and prove your unflinching love for each other. That’s when your relationship strengthens.
10. APPRECIATE THE GOOD THINGS IN YOUR PARTNER
No matter how simple or routine the task may be, appreciate your partner and thank them for everything. It shows that you respect and value them, both of which are important for a long lasting relationship.
11. CELEBRATE THE SPECIAL DAYS
Do not forget the important days in your
relationship – the day you first met each other, your first date, the day your partnerproposed to you, and of course your birthdays and wedding anniversary. Celebrate your togetherness and create cherishable memories.
12. UNDERSTAND AND EMPATHIZE WITHYOUR PARTNER
If your partner is having a bad temper on a day and shouts at you, show empathy, and control the temptation to answer them back in the same tone. They might have had a tough day at work or be feeling stressed. Understand their perspective, empathize with them, and when the time is apt, find out. what is bothering them.
13. FORGIVE AND FORGET
Mistakes do happen. If your partner hurts you, forgive him/her and forget about it. Forgiveness will encourage them to do thesame when you make a mistake.
Please note: Whenever there’s a fight, remember it’s “you two” against the issue. Not you and your partner.
14. KEEP YOUR.PROMISES
That makes you trustworthy, reliable and increases your credibility
15. DO THE BEST AND BE THE BEST YOU CAN.
All of us are vulnerable to criticism and fear the fear of doing something wrong and being criticized for it. Give your best to your relationship irrespective of your partner’s reaction. It is only so much you can do; the way your partner reacts to it is not in your control.
If you want your relationship to last,
you need to be willing to give up other people
that make your partner feel uncomfortable
in order to respect YOUR person.
It's not toxic,
It's called growing up.
1. Be Patient With Your Partner: Avoid forcing your lover to do something against his or her wish.
Let everything happen in the right time.
There is no need to rush.
2. Be An Understanding Partner: Try to believe what your lover tells you, if he tells you that he failed to get airtime to call you, try to understand.
He’s also a human being like you. If she tells you that by the time you called her, she was asleep–please try to understand.
She also gets tired and she needs to rest like any other person.
3. Always Forgive And Forget: Avoid bringing back the old things your lover did to you in the past every time you get a quarrel.
4. Be Caring: I don’t mean you should go and borrow money from the bank and friends to buy costly things for your partner or taking him or her to expensive hotels.
I mean doing the little things that suits your wallet.
Trust me if your lover is understanding he/she will appreciate and love you that way.
5. Maintain The Communication With Your Partner: Try keeping in touch with your partner, call or text him or her—
Atleast once in a day.
Don’t allow your lover to start missing you.
Be closer in any possible way.
6. Be Faithful And Trustworthy To Your Partner: I know you may be far away from your partner. Sometimes, you may start doubting him or her, and you start thinking that maybe he or she is cheating on you. and because of that, you also start flirting and sleeping around with different people—which isn’t good at all.
Fight those false thoughts so that they don’t take you off track.
If you really love him or her, Trust in your partner and be faithful.
7. Avoid Listening To Rumors: these rumors are spread by jobless people.
They keep gathering false information and then they spread it to you.
Majority of them have intentions which aren’t good. Some are even interested in your lover, they admire the way he/she cares and loves you. So give them a deaf ears.
1. Don't make a habit of putting your phone on silent mode or turning it off each time you're with your partner. It makes you look like you are hiding something
2. Save your partner's phone number using a special title like "Hubby", "Love", "Wife", "Sweetie". Or save using a title plus the official name. Using the official name only makes your partner look like just the other contacts on your phone
3. Answer your partner's phone call with loving affectionate words like "Hi love", "Hey honey". How a conversation starts detetmines how it flows. If you start warm, you two will enjoy talking with each other on phone
4. End the talk on a high. Say "I love you", say a joke, a compliment, a warm phrase before you hang up. Hang up with a smile
5. It is OK to chat with friends online. But never chat with another person more than you chat with your partner
6. If you will be busy, notify your partner you will not be able to pick up calls or reply texts promptly. Inform your partner what you will be doing and approximately for how long. This prepares your partner and brings peace because your partner will not feel ignored
7. Flirting on phone is good but only flirt with your partner
8. Tell off people who try to flirt with you, entice you and charm you on phone. Let them know that you are taken
9. Take lots of photos and videos together to capture moments. You will need those pics and videos in future as you look back
10. When you go out on dates, keep the phone away, minimize phone use so that you focus on each other
11. Don't make a habit of walking away from your partner to answer phone calls. Your partner will perceive you are hiding something or having an affair. Love is about perception
12. After the date and you don't live together; man, call her up and check on her, tell her you got home safe; lady, send him a text, thanking him for a wonderful time
13. Unless it's an emergency, when you can't reach your partner and you probably know he/she is at work or doing something; don't keep calling and texting desperately. You will only look like a nag to your partner and that will make your partner detest phone contact with you. Relax, your partner will see your missed call and text
14. When you see a missed call or text from your partner, please call back or reply as soon as you can. Put your partner at ease
15. Save your partner's phone number as an emergency number to be contacted incase something happens to you and your phone is locked
16. Avoid fights and arguments over the phone, they are difficult to manage and leave a bad feeling when you hang up, thus negatively affecting how you two relate. Talk about serious issues that are volatile face to face
17. When your partner offends you or you two aggrevate each other, never refuse to pick up your partner's phone call. That only makes matters worse. Keep the line of communication open so that you work things out. If you can't talk at the moment you are hurting, just pick up the call and say "I can't talk right now" and your partner will understand
18. Inform your partner when and why you need to turn off your phone when you two are apart. Keep your partner from worrying
19. When you two are having fun together, it is good to celebrate your love online but don't post too much about your lovelife. Some things are best kept private. The world doesn't have to know every detail of how you love each other
20. When you two are having problems, don't vent about your partner directly or indirectly on your social media posts
21. Don't let your partner get news about you from social media like your online friends. Tell the news to your partner first, and then post online
22. If your partner tries calling you but your line is engaged, explain who you were talking to. If someones calls you when you're with your partner, say who it was. Transparency and clarity enhances trust
23. Remember it is both your role to communicate. None of you should feel he/she is forcing a conversation or is doing much of the talking. Communication takes two
24. Put away the phone when your partner needs your undivided attention, especially in the bedroom. Don't be intimate, holding your phone, more than you hold your partner
Phone use can affect your relationship/marriage negatively or positively. Be smart as you use your smart phone.
Dear Society,
What if I never get married?
What if man after man, I find dissatisfaction and distrust and all the men I desire do not see me, and the ones who do? I do not have feelings for them.
Should I just marry anyone or live depressed, just to satisfy your qualification for "A great life?"
What if I never give birth?
I know that months into my marriage, you'll look out for my bulging stomach, count the months and talk about how I am yet to have a child when I upload my second marriage anniversary picture. Should I not laugh, go on trips and upload photos of great moments with my husband just because I do not satisfy your qualification of "A great life?"
What if I'm still not a millionaire two years after my National Youth service year?
I know you're counting my age, wondering what exactly I'm doing with my life and measuring me by the achievements of my mates. Should I not wear great clothes, hair do and a slice of self-confidence, just because I do not satisfy your qualifications of "A great life?"
What If I write WAEC thrice?
What if my child doesn't walk on her first birthday?
What if I repeat clothes?
Dear society?
Should I disappear from the face of the earth because I inherited fat-genes from my parents and no matter how little I eat, I grow fat?
What if my stomach doesn't become flat months after childbirth?
What if I yielded to temptation and now carry a baby outside marriage? Should I commit an abortion, kill myself or be sad, moody and hang my head down because I do not meet your qualifications of "A great Life?"
Dear Society,
This letter is not for you. Sorry I addressed it wrongly, because what you think and say is your business. How I respond and what I believe is what matters.
Dear Me,
Will you let society set the basis for your living, and fear of what it thinks rule what you do and don't do?
Society didn't create you. God did. Society doesn't give you Oxygen. God does.
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When someone loves you, you know and you will feel it. There will be evidences to attest to it.
Below are some of the evidences...
✅ ATTENTION
When someone loves you, he or she will give you attention. We give attention to the things that we love.
✅ CARE
When someone loves you, they will care about your well-being. Anyone that doesn't care about your welfare does not love you.
✅ COMMUNICATION
When someone loves you, they will communicate often with you as much as possible. Hearing the voice of whom you love is a delight.
✅ GIVING
The natural outflow of love is giving. When someone loves you, they will give. It doesn't necessarily has to be money but there will be giving.
✅ SPENDING TIME TOGETHER
When someone loves you, they will desire and long to spend time with you. When you love someone, you will desire the presence of the person. Anyone that doesn't like spending time with you, may not love you.
✅ SACRIFICE
The ultimate prove of love is sacrifice. Love is not self-seeking. Love always spends itself at the expense of the beloved. Someone that is not going out of his way once in a while to make you feel good, may not love you. Love is sacrificial.
✅ PATIENCE
When someone loves you, they will patient with you. They will be patient with in your weaknesses, down time, etc.
✅ PROTECTION
When someone loves you, they will try to protect you from harm, they will ensure that you are safe.
✅ KINDNESS
When someone loves you, they will be kind to you. Love is kind. Harshness is a sign of hatred, resentment or anger not a sign of love.
✅ VULNERABILITY
When someone loves you, they will vulnerable to you. They will loose their guard, put down their defence, they will dismantle the barricade and they will show you the weak side of them hoping you don't hurt them.
✅ SUPPORT
When someone loves you, they will support you in whatever capacity they can. They will support your dreams and aspirations, they will support you financially, spiritually, emotionally and otherwise.
✅ INVESTMENT
When someone loves you, they will invest in you to make you better than they met you mentally, emotionally, economically etc. Love builds up.
So these are some of the signs that shows someone loves you.
How Do You Know That The Love Is Real?
✅ Give It Time
No mask can be worn forever. Give people time. Their mask will fall. Until then, don't marry or do business with them. Stay loving, but be alert."
You cannot cover pregnancy forever, with time it will be revealed for all to see.
So, give the person time. He says he loves you with all his heart, you are his morning star, sunshine, sugar in the tea, butter in the bread and his one and only woman, there's no problem. Give it time.
When he asks for sex and you tell him no sex until marriage, will he still continue to love?
When you find yourself in a very difficult situation, maybe you are critically ill, will he still continue to love?
She says she loves you, you are her world and you mean everything to her. Without you she cannot live nor survive. You are her oxygen and life-force. There is no problem. Give it time.
When you loose your job or suffer a major blow in your business, will she still love?
When you are broke and unable to provide for her financial needs, will she still love or disappear with another guy?
Don't rush things. Give it time. Time is a revealer. Time will reveal if the love is real or not, with time you will come to know if the person is saying the truth or lying. Love perseveres and love is long-suffering. Stay loving, but be alert.
"Time will reveal if the love is real or not.
