𝐍𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐜𝐞 𝐚 𝗿𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽.

Sometimes it's better to move on, than to hold on to a person who doesn't understand who you truly are. Unfortunately there will be times where your absence will teach you what your presence cannot.

You need to stop breaking your own heart in trying to make a relationship work that clearly isn't meant to work to begin with.

You can't force someone to genuinely care about you.

You can't force someone to be faithful to you.

You can't force someone to be the person you need

them to be.

The truth is, sometimes the person you want the most is the same person you would be best without.

You have got to understand some things are meant to come into your life, just not meant to stay.

Everything that you do to show love, you have to be

careful, not to lose yourself by trying to fix what should never been there in the first place. You can't get the relationship you need from someone who's not ready to reciprocate the love you give to them.

I know it's hard when you meet someone and your heart feels, that's the person you could spend an eternity with, and you start to accept that they are not that person you thought they needed to be.

And no matter how many times you cry yourself to sleep at night, you will eventually heal from your previous relationship and find the one you have always longed for. Your future will now bring an understanding of why things didn't work out in your previous relationships.

One thing I have learned throughout the years, is “It is better to be single than to be in a relationship settling for less.”

If they see you as an option, then they don't deserve to be a priority in your life.

Take my advice and never chase someone who's not chasing you.

Mother

Mama,

You don't need to take care of everything, you don't have to be a super mom, a super housewife, a super professional, a super woman.

Because when your body gets tired, there will be few who will remember that you tried to be all of this in one person.

So, leave the house for later, go for a walk, go to the park, start the gym, buy clothes, go to the salon, sleep, be yourself, take care of yourself, love yourself, and do it exclusively for and for you.

Kids grow up, the husband sometimes leaves, the job finds a replacement, the house will get dirty again, but you don't get a second chance.

RELATIONSHIP RULES

RELATIONSHIP RULES EVERY MARRIED COUPLE MUST PRACTICE

Whether you are just entering a relationship or have been in one for some time, rules help you take it to the next level. Follow the below rules and see the magic work:

1. LOVE WITH NO CONDITION

Love cannot have conditions. It becomes all too materialistic when “only ifs” seep into your relationship.

You cannot have conditions like you can only love if your partner earns more than you, if he buys you gifts every  month, if she looks beautiful always. 

Love your partner as your parents love you unconditional. 

2. YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS YOUR PRIORITY

Make your relationship your topmost priority. Invest time and effort in your relationship and constantly strive to make it better. 

3. KEEP YOUR COMMUNICATION CHANNEL ALWAYS OPEN

Without communication, you can drift apart in your relationship. Let your communication be open and honest. No matter how busy or tired you are, don’t let that block your communication.

4. HUG AS OFTEN AS YOU CAN

Include it in your daily routine and make your hugs last longer. Hugging increases the oxytocin (the love hormone) levels and reduces cortisol ( the stress hormone) 

5. HAVE SEX GENEROUSLY

Don’t schedule sex, let it be impromptu. That’s when it becomes exciting and the intimacy between you grows. Don’t let any excuses come in your way when it comes to having sex.

6. SPEND QUALITY TIME TOGETHER

You need not necessarily go on a date night. You may also have a romantic dinner at home, just sit in the garden or balcony and rewind your memories or watch your favorite TV program together. The idea is to take a break from your busy schedules to stay close.

7. BE HONEST AND TRUTHFUL TO BUILD TRUST

Trust develop on honesty and truthfulness. Occasional minor and harmless lies are permitted to keep your partner happy but cheating and lack of fidelity have no place in a relationship.

Learn your partner’s love language. Whether it is spending quality time together, physical intimacy, or words of affirmation, understanding what they

enjoy the most will strengthen your bond.

8. CRITICIZE BUT DON'T HURT

If you want to criticize your partner to make them better, then the criticism should be constructive and positive. Help your partner understand the intention behind the criticism.

9. STAND BY EACH OTHER

We hope tough times do not touch your lives, but it’s during these times you have to stand by your partner and prove your unflinching love for each other. That’s when your relationship strengthens.

10. APPRECIATE THE GOOD THINGS IN YOUR PARTNER

No matter how simple or routine the task may be, appreciate your partner and thank them for everything. It shows that you respect and value them, both of which are important for a long lasting relationship.

11. CELEBRATE THE SPECIAL DAYS

Do not forget the important days in your

relationship – the day you first met each other, your first date, the day your partnerproposed to you, and of course your birthdays and wedding anniversary. Celebrate your togetherness and create cherishable memories.

12. UNDERSTAND AND EMPATHIZE WITHYOUR PARTNER

If your partner is having a bad temper on a day and shouts at you, show empathy, and control the temptation to answer them back in the same tone. They might have had a tough day at work or be feeling stressed. Understand their perspective, empathize with them, and when the time is apt, find out. what is bothering them.

13. FORGIVE AND FORGET

Mistakes do happen. If your partner hurts you, forgive him/her and forget about it. Forgiveness will encourage them to do thesame when you make a mistake. 

Please note: Whenever there’s a fight, remember it’s “you two” against the issue. Not you and your partner.

14. KEEP YOUR.PROMISES

That makes you trustworthy, reliable and increases your credibility

15. DO THE BEST AND BE THE BEST YOU CAN.

All of us are vulnerable to criticism and fear the fear of doing something wrong and being criticized for it. Give your best to your relationship irrespective of your partner’s reaction. It is only so much you can do; the way your partner reacts to it is not in your control.

🤙42 lessons life taught me 💖

It is something we should all read at least once a week! Make sure you read to the end!

To celebrate growing older:

1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short – enjoy it..

4. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will.

5. Pay off your credit cards every month.

6. You don't have to win every argument. Stay true to yourself.

7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.

8. Save for retirement starting with your first pay check.

9. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

10. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.

11. It's OK to let your children see you cry.

12. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

13. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it...

14 Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

15. Get rid of anything that isn't useful. Clutter weighs you down in many ways.

16. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.

17. It's never too late to be happy. But it’s all up to you and no one else.

18. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.

19. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

20. Over prepare, then go with the flow.

21. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.💖

22. The most important sex organ is the brain.

23. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.

24. Frame every so-called disaster with these words 'In five years, will this matter?'

25. Always choose life.

26. Forgive but don’t forget.

27. What other people think of you is none of your business.

28. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.

29. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

30. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does..

31. Believe in miracles.

32. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

33. Growing old beats the alternative -- dying young.

34. Your children get only one childhood.

35. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

36. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere. (I love this one)

37. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.

38. Envy is a waste of time. Accept what you already have not what you need.

39. The best is yet to come...

40. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

41. Yield.

42. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift."

Thank you !

23 THINGS A MAN MUST NEVER DO TO A LADY!

When a lady loves you, she gives herself completely. she loves you with her whole heart and soul. Don't make her regret her decision. 

The followings are what a man must never do to a lady: 

1. Don’t Break Her Heart: Breaking a woman's heart is deeper than we realize. It affects her emotionally, destroys her outlook on love and can affect her future relationship. 

Love is never supposed to hurt. Love is supposed to heal, to be your haven from misery, to make living worthwhile. 

2. Don’t Pretend You Love Her. If you don't truly love her, let her know and stop wasting her time. its better She knows than you making it look she's safe

3. Never Tell Her She Is Ugly. This is the worst thing you will ever say to a lady. Every lady deserves to be called beautiful. So to the females reading this, You Are Beautiful. 

4. Don’t Compare Her To Your Ex: That's unfair to her and a disaster waiting to happen. She is not your Ex.  Every woman is unique. Never make her feel she's not match to your ex. If your ex is better than her, then make her to your taste not compare her. Love her unconditionally

5. Don’t Take Her Love For Granted: She'll love you. When a lady accepts you into her life, she loves with everything in her. She loves with her heart. Please appreciate it.

6. Don’t Shout On Her: Screaming and yelling at your lady is oppression. Argument is common in any relationship but yelling should not. When you are shouting at your lady, then you are damaging the bond to the core. Lovers don't shout at each other. They talk as friends. 

7. Never EVER Lay your hands on her: EVER! It is only a f@ol who beats a woman. Real men don't beat women. They protect them. 

8. Never Cheat On Her. Relationship is never for the unfaithful people. If you can't be faithful to one person for the rest of your life, don't go into a relationship. A real man chooses to honor, love, respect, adore and be faithful to one woman 

9. Don’t Disrespect Her: I know she can be silly sometimes, but show maturity by correcting in love. 

10. Don’t Waste Her Time If You Will Not Marry Her. If you are NOT sure that you will marry the lady you are courting right now and you know very well that she is very serious with you in the relationship and wants to marry you and has sincerely given her everything to stay by your side; please tell her now that you will not marry her so that she will not waste her golden time on you. Never waste a lady's time. 

11. Don’t Make Her Break Her Decision Of “NO S£X BEFORE MARRIAGE”:Instead help her stand by it. DON'T BE A MAN THAT ASKS FOR S£X AS A PROOF FOR LOVE. Its st-upidity. S£X BEFORE MARRIAGE IS NOT A PROOF OF LOVE. AVOID S£X TILL YOUR WEDDING NIGHT

12. Don’t Make Her Feel Unloved: Love her wholeheartedly. 

13. Never R-ape Her. 

Real men are not r-apists. R-ape is a crime. 

R-ape can cause life-long emotional and physical effects on its victims. R-ape is a crime and a human rights violation. No r-ape is justifiable.

14. Never Fail To Say She Is Beautiful. Learn to say beautiful words to her. Women are moved by what they hear. 

15. Don’t Mock Her In The Public. In private, lovers can softly poke fun at one another in a way that is safe and gentle. In public, it’s not as easy. A man must be very careful about using his lady for a cheap laugh. While it’s okay to laugh about events, it’s dangerous to make any joke which can be taken as demeaning

16. Don’t impregnate Her And Deny it. One of the basic reasons of s£x is that it is meant for procreation. Anybody who opts for s£x must be ready to accept the consequences of s£x namely, procreation. That is one of the reasons why God does not allow it to be done wrongly. 

Marriage is an honorable way for 

anyone to enjoy sex (Heb. 13:4) some other 

way – whether s£x before marriage

(fornication) or s£x with someone else during 

marriage (adultery) - is condemned by God. 

17. Don’t Expose Her Secrets To Your Friends And Family. Those private revelations should never be made public by you. 

18. Don’t Lie To Her. Be faithful, loyal and honest. 

19. Don’t Correct Her In The Public. She will feel embarrassed. Let any correction be done between both of you. And let it be done in love. 

20. Don’t Hate Her Family. 

 21. Don’t Treat Her Like A Nonentity. Value her. Celebrate her uniqueness. She is a treasure

22. Don’t Make Promises You Can’t Keep. Be a man of his Word. 

23. Never Dupe or Scam Her.

Be a MAN OF Maturity, Strength and Wisdom.

Be a man she'll Thank God she has 

Be a Blessed man not a foolish one that destroys ladies 

BE WISE!!!

🙏🥂

BEWARE OF THESE MARRIAGE KILLERS

1. Laziness kills Marriage.

2. Suspicion kills Marriage.

3. Lack of trust kills marriage.

4. Lack of mutual respect kills marriage.

5. Unforgiveness, Bitterness, Hatred, Malice and anger kill marriage.

6. Unnecessary Arguments kills marriage.

7. Keeping Secrets from your Spouse kills marriage.

8. Every form of Infidelity kills marriage (financial, emotional, psychological, material, etc).

9. Poor Communication kills marriage.

10. Lies easily kills marriage, be sincere to your spouse in every aspect.

11. Relating more with your parents/family members than your spouse kills marriage.

12. Lack of inadequate or unenjoyable sex kills marriage. 

13. Nagging kills marriage.

14. Too much talk and careless talk kills marriage.

15. Spending less or little time with your spouse kills marriage.

16. Being too independent minded kills marriage.

17. Love for party, money, impulse buying and spending/partying, financial indiscipline kill marriage. 

18. Exposing the inadequacies of your spouse to your parents or Siblings kills marriage.

19. Not being steadfast/fervent in the spirit, not praying together kills not only marriage but your life.

20. Spurning correction and reprimand kills marriage. 

21. Always wearing a sad face and being Moody kills marriage.  

22. Feminism Advocacy kills marriage. 

23. Male Chauvinism kills marriage.

24. Uncontrolled or hot Temperament, Anger kills marriage. 

25. Not understanding your role and position , not taking responsibilty in marriage as instituted by God kills marriage. 

26. Not being sensitive to the spiritual, emotional, financial and physical needs of your spouse kills marriage.

27. When anything threatens the position/security of a wife, her reaction(s) will be detrimental to her marriage.

28. Lack of the Knowledge of & Obedience to  the word of God kills marriage.

You will not failed in marriage.

MYTHS AND TRUTHS

1. WHEN A MAN STRUGGLES TO ERECT, IT MEANS HE IS CHEATING:

Sometimes a man will struggle to erect or sustain an erection because he is stressed, tired, overthinking or he feels you disrespect him as his wife. Don't be so quick to accuse him of cheating.

2. ONCE A CHEAT, ALWAYS A CHEAT

      People can change. Marriages can thrive after infidelity if the two choose to fight for it and heal it. A cheat can change if he or she is determined to change.

3. IF A WOMAN DOESN'T SQUIRT, SHE IS NOT SEXUALLY SATISFIED

Not every woman will squirt in their lifetime; some even don't long to squirt because they find it messy. Don't feel under pressure, intimacy is much deeper, not a chase after squirts.

4. A WOMAN WHO HAS GIVEN BIRTH IS TOO WIDE DOWN THERE

The vagina is very elastic, it can expand and contract. 

5. YOUR HUSBAND HATES YOUR STRETCHMARKS

Many women feel insecure about their stretchmarks because of their own insecurities or the judgement from other women. Most men don't even complain about stretchmarks, all they want is some good loving inside the wife. Lady, you are beautiful as you are. Relax

6. SIZE IS EVERYTHING

The size of the penis is not everything, skill is. Regardless of the God-given size or shape of your penis; what your wife wants is that you be creative and skillfull with it as you confidently give her that good feeling.

7. EVERY SEXUAL EPISODE A COUPLE HAS MUST BE THE SAME

Last night's love making might have been so intense, today it might be calm and flat. Not every time it will be similar. Stop trying to recreate a memory, enjoy each episode and make it unique. Don't panic or think your marriage is under threat when the sex this week doesn't match last week's fireworks.

8. EVERY PERSON HAS THE SAME SEXUAL SPOTS

Don't copy paste what you hear about others. Not every woman has sensitive nipples, not every man loves their balls played with. Some ladies find their inner thighs ticklish, some men love their nipples pinched. Find out how your spouse wants it. Discover him or her.  

9. EVERY WOMAN CLIMAXES JUST ONCE

Some women can only climax once and some can climax over and over. Find out what kind of a woman she is. 

10. THOSE WHO MARRIED AS VIRGINS OR WITH LITTLE SEXUAL EXPERIENCE ARE BORING IN BED

You don't need training with many people to be great in bed; all you need is to emotionally connect and be willing to learn your spouse and to enjoy and give pleasure and your sex life will be amazing

11. SEX IN AFFAIRS IS SWEETER THAN SEX IN MARRIAGE

Affairs are fun because they are new, passionate, they have a lot of investment in flirting and emotional bonding, and there is a build up of excitement. All those things you can bring into your marriage. You can have a steamy affair with your spouse

12. A COUPLE THAT HAS HAD AN AVERAGE SEX LIFE CAN NEVER IMPROVE

Any couple that feels their sex life sucks can shake things up and bring fire into their love life. Are you willing to go on an adventure on each other's body?

13. EVERY MAN WAKES UP WITH A HARD ON

Not every man will wake up horny, so don't think he is not attracted to you just because he doesn't want some each morning. You can start him up though

14. SPIRITUAL PEOPLE ARE PATHETIC IN BED

You can be spiritual and still be highly sexual. Sex was created by God. God is a romantic God. In fact, the more you grow as a believer, the more romantic and expressive you should become, understanding the beauty and power of sexual intimacy done as unto the Lord

15. IF YOU LIKE MAKING LOVE AT NIGHT, YOUR SPOUSE WILL AUTOMATICALLY WANT THE SAME

Your spouse might enjoy making love a different time than you. Some people are night people, others are morning ones; the goal is to compromise and accommodate each other's preferences in the marriage to tend to each other's needs

16. EVERY INFECTION IS BECAUSE YOUR PARTNER CHEATED

Sometimes your infection as a woman is not brought about by your man giving you an STI, you could be having a UTI, or an infection brought about by your hygiene, toilet use, underwear not properly dried before wearing or internal body fluids. Don't be too quick to conclude that your spouse cheated and has brought you an infection.