SEX AND STRESS

1. Sex starts in the mind, stress happens in the mind. That is why it is difficult to enjoy or initiate sex when one is stressed

2. It is difficult to desire sex from someone who stresses you. Maybe your spouse doesn't want you sexually because you are the source of their stress

3. Financial problems cause the most amount of stress, especially in men. This is why often libido goes when there are financial woes

4. No matter how sexy you are physically, if internally in your mind you are stressed, you will not feel sexy

5. When one is stressed, they don't bother looking sexy. They may not bathe, shave, dress suggestively or flirt

6. A stressed up woman takes a long time to climax, she might lose her wetness while in the act. It is not that you don't make love to her good, she is thinking of stressful things

7. A stressed up man can lose his erection mid-way. It is not that he is not enjoying your vagina, he has alot on his mind

8. Insisting on your stressed spouse to have sex with you can lead to your spouse resenting you. Help your spouse address the stressful issue first before seeking pleasure 

9. A stressed spouse might be flat, boring and indifferent to your flirty messages. Don't take offense, it is the stress

10. If your spouse is stressed but you are all happy, you will be living in different worlds and your spouse might avoid you, coming home to bed late

11. Stress is the main reason alot of couples have gone for weeks without making love; especially stress they bring to each other. Be peace makers, not stressgivers

12. Stress makes someone closed up, constantly covering their nakedness. Less nudity, less sex

13. Some couples prefer making love when having a stressful day to lift up their spirits so that after the climax, they think better solutions and remember there is more to life than what is stressing them

Address what is stressing you before it ruins your sex life

What's Marriage?

 MARRIAGE IS...

1. Having a companion to talk to about anything and everything without feeling judged, petty or silly

2. Having a sexy partner who studies your sexiness to make love to when horniness calls with no questions asked 

3. Having someone to invest and build wealth with; two are better than one for they have a better reward for their labour 

4. Having someone dependable to be your strength when you are weak 

5. Having someone who understands the good and bad of your past and builds with you a greater tomorrow 

6. Having a prayer partner who goes to spiritual warfare with and for you and covers you in prayer

7. Having a co-parent who raises well-brought up children with you in a wholesome home 

8. Having someone who can help you solve your problems and covers you from public shame as he/she moulds you in private 

9. Having someone to eat with you and chill with you because food and time is sweeter with someone you love and who loves you

10. Having someone who is your eyes and ears to warn you and look out for you

11. Having a caring partner who can nurse you when you fall sick

12. Having someone who knows and believes in your purpose to push you to be better, hold you accountable and correct you with love

13. Having someone who draws you closer to God as you both long for eternal life with your Maker 

14. Having someone who encourages you when you are down and who speaks life and positivity to your negative thoughts 

15. Having someone to grow old with; in your old age looking back and saying "Honey, we did it"

🫵🏽May you have a blessed marriage, may God bless your journey together as a united couple

Remember Love is Natural ❣️ 

Have a blessed day ❤️

If you want a wife, then be a husband

 If you want a wife, then be a husband..

1. If you want your wife to make love to you often, then take care of her heart. You cannot mistreat your wife and hurt her then expect great and frequent sex.

2. If you want your wife to respect you, then you have to do respectable and admirable things. You cannot dishonour her and shame her then expect her to excuse your gross misbehavior with a blanket respect. She can't submit to torture.

3. If you want your wife to feel safe with you and open up to you, then you have to stop emotionally and physically abusing her. You cannot instil fear and wonder why she protects herself from you.

4. If you want your wife to enjoy intimacy with you, then you have to maintain oral and body hygiene. You cannot expect your wife to enjoy kissing you and playing with your penis yet you smell of sweat, you don't shower, don't brush your teeth and smell of cigarette, weed or alcohol.

5. If you want your wife to stop complaining, then you need to stop repeating the same wrongs. She complains because she has to call you out when you do wrong since she believes you can be better.

6. If you want your wife to be financially transparent with you and to stop making financial decisions behind your back, then you need to start showing financial responsibility. As long as you keep being reckless, she will save and invest without your knowledge to protect her future and that of the children.

7. If you want your wife to brag about you to people, then do things that make her proud.  She cannot pretend that you are a great man yet you are not.

8. If you want your wife to stop nagging and being moody, then you need to make time to spend with her and make her feel special. A woman nags and becomes grumpy when she feels neglected. A loved up wife glows.

9. If you want your wife to stop fighting your friends, then you need to stop surrounding yourself with the wrong friends and allowing your friends to pull you away from your family. You wife is just protecting you.

10. If you want your wife to be proud to be your wife, then you have to do things that make her say "Yes" to you daily. Don't expect her to be satisfied with the title of wife just because she wears your ring, has a marriage certificate or has your child/children.

11. If you want your wife to help you and support you, then you need to have a vision and share it with her. A woman can only be a helper to a man who knows where he is going and gives her room to build with him.

A Pregnant Woman to her husband

A Pregnant Woman to her husband:

What you are expecting - will it be a boy or girl?

Husband- "If we have a boy, I'll teach him maths, we will go for sports, I will teach him fishing and so on."

Wife - "Ha.. Ha.. And what if its a girl?"

Husband - If we have a girl.. I'll not have to teach her anything. 

Because she will be the one who will teach me all the things, again..like 

how to dress, how to eat, what to say, what not to say.. 

In short, she will be my second mom and She will consider me as her hero even if I do not do anything special, she'll always understand when I'll refuse her for something. 

She'll always compare her husband to be me.. No matter how old she will be, she'll always want that I should treat her like my baby doll.. She'll fight with the world for me and if someone will hurt me, she will never forgive that person.

 Wife - "So you mean to say that your daughter will do all those things but your son will not?"

 Husband - "No.. no! May be he will do the same but he will learn to do them. But daughters are born with it. Being the father of a daughter is the pride for any man."

 Wife - "But, she will not be with us forever."

 Husband - "Yes, but we will be with her, in her heart, forever. So it really doesn't make a difference where she goes."

 Daughters are Angels... Born with Unconditional Love & Care...Forever. 

 Dedicated to all lucky fathers blessed with daughters.

Sad reality

50 years ago, children were gentle with their parents. Today parents have to be gentle with their children.

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50 years ago, children respected their parents. Now parents have to respect their children.

👌👌👌👌👌👌

50 years ago, marriage was easy but divorce was difficult. 

Nowadays it is difficult to get married but divorce is so easy.

💑💑💑💑💑💑

50 years ago, we got to know all the neighbours. Now we are strangers to our neighbors.

💐💐💐💐💐💐

50 years ago, people had to eat a lot because they needed the energy to work hard. Now we are afraid to eat fatty foods for fear of the cholesterol and hypertension.

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50 years ago, only one person worked to support the whole family. Now all have to work to support one child.

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50 years ago, people loved to study and read books ... 

Now people love to update their status on social media...

🧩🧩🧩🧩🧩🧩

This is the 21st Century:

*Phone.......👉Wireless*

*Cooking....👉Fireless*

*Cars..........👉Keyless*

*Food.........👉Fatless*

*Tyres........👉Tubeless*

*Tools........👉Cordless*

*Dress........👉Sleeveless*

*Youth........👉Jobless*

*Leaders....👉Shameless* 

*Attitude....👉Careless*

*Spouse.....👉Fearless*

*Feeling......👉Heartless*

*Education.👉Valueless*

*Kids..........👉Mannerless*

When you marry a narcissistic man

 When you marry a narcissistic man, you never get the chance to be a wife; instead, you take on the role of a mother because these grown adults behave like man-children. They go to work Monday through Friday and then spend their weekends sitting in front of a laptop, downloading music, playing video games, or creating messes for you to clean. You find yourself both single and a parent simultaneously, shouldering the weight of responsibilities without the support of a partner.

Narcissists don't marry for love or partnership; they marry because they want a maid, cook, secretary, banker, and a babysitter. They crave control, not connection. Their selfish desires consume them, leaving you to manage the household, raise the children, and cater to their every whim. Your dreams of a loving, equal relationship are shattered, replaced by the harsh reality of servitude.

As the days turn into weeks, and the weeks into years, you become a shadow of your former self. Your identity is erased, replaced by the exhausting duties of managing a narcissist's life. You're forced to sacrifice your own desires, interests, and friendships to accommodate their demands. The emotional labor is suffocating, leaving you drained, resentful, and wondering how you ended up in this nightmare.

You're not alone in this struggle. Many women have fallen prey to the charming facade of a narcissist, only to find themselves trapped in a loveless, thankless role. Remember, you deserve better. You deserve a partner who loves, supports, and respects you. Don't let the narcissist's gaslighting convince you otherwise. Break free from this toxic cycle and reclaim your life. You are more than a mother to a man-child; you are a strong, capable, and worthy individual who deserves to be loved and cherished.

My Advice to young generations

1. Your control of your sexual urges will be the reason you are either successful or a failure.

2. Porn and masturbation is the greatest killer of success. It stunt and destroy your brain.

3. Avoid drinking alcohol like a camel drinking water. Nothing worse than losing your senses and acting a fool.

4.  Keep your standards high and don't settle for something because it's available.

5. If you find someone smarter than you, work with them, don't compete.

6. No one is coming to save your problems. Your life's 100% is your responsibility.

7. You shouldn't take advice from people who are not where you want to be in life.

8. Find new ways to make money. Make money and ignore the jokers who mocks and make fun of you. 

9. You don't need 100 self-help books, all you need is action and self discipline. Be disciplined! 

10. Avoid drugs. Avoid weed. 

11. Learn skills on YouTube not wasting your time consuming shitty content on Netflix. 

12. No one cares about you. So stop being shy, go out and create your chances.

13. Comfort is the worst addiction and cheap ticket to depression. 

14. Prioritize your family. Defend them even if they stink, even if they are idiots. Cover their nakedness. 

15. Find new opportunities and learn from people ahead of you. 

16. Trust no one. Not a single person no matter how tempted. Believe in yourself. 

17. Don't wait for miracles make them happen. Yes you can't always do it alone but don't listen to the opinion of people.

18. Hardwork and determination can make you achieve anything.

Humbling yourself only takes you higher.

19. Stop waiting to discover yourself. Create YOU instead.

20. The world won't slow down for you.

21. No one owes you anything. 

22. Life is a single-player game. You’re born alone. You’re going to die alone. All of your interpretations are alone. You’re gone in three generations and nobody cares. Before you showed up, nobody cared. It’s all single-player. 

23. Your life path is designed in such a path that you feel needy, depressed and weak all the time. And there's only one way out, which is deciding to get out. No one but you will save yourself and your loved ones.

24. Not everyone has the same heart as you. Not everyone is honest with you as you are with them. You will meet people who will use you for their gain and then discard you once that section of their life has passed and they are fulfilled. Stay woke.

25. By age 25, you should be smart enough to:

→Celebrate the success of others

→Avoid jealousy and envy

→Keep an open-mind

→Avoid assumptions

→Act with intention

→Practice gratitude

→Speak honestly

→Exercise daily

→Avoid gossip

→Eat clean

→Forgive

→Listen

→Learn

→LOVE

Time waits for no one.

STAY BLESSED 🙏❤️ .